Ok, I met a guy a few weeks ago, through one of my friends, boyfriend actually. We all went out to dinner together. Before we met, he first asked if I looked like that certain actress he was a fan of - well a lot of people tell me that I look like that actress, so they thought I'd be the one. So far, he sounds superficial, right? Anyway, he had also asked several questions about me, whether I was clever, what kind of music I liked... - we like the same band by the way - well that night we met I wasn't impressed first, I thought maybe he was immature - but later that evening, we kind of connected. He loves animals, sports, cooking etc.. . but he's also quite different from the other guys I dated. That night he added me on Facebook. Following night we all met at my friend's bf's house again and had dinner, there were some more people. He looked happy to see me again but we rarely talked that night, in fact he didn't talk to me much... I thought maybe he was kind of shy - I was told that he could be shy before. He didn't get my phone number either. Well the following day, I invited him to the cinema by sending him a message on Facebook. He was talking about how he wanted to see avatar and I thought maybe he couldn't ask me, so I asked! He called me a few hours later - got my number from his friend - and we met again. Three nights in a row! It was nice, we had coffee, first, then movie and then he took me home. He said thank you for this great evening, it was pleasure etc. Later in the morning, I accidentally called him instead of my mother, funny isn't it? Then as soon as I saw his name on the calls list, I sent him an apology message, telling how sorry I was for calling at such an early hour, it was a mistake etc. A few hours later he called me, told me he was sleeping when he got my message and said it was OK, no prob. I hope he believed that I was sincere. Anyway, he asked me what I was doing that day and I told him I had some work to do and that was all. Then I was almost sure he would call me in a few days but he didn't! After two days, I sent him a message, about the snow, he was saying how he wanted it to snow, so it was finally snowing that day! We sent a few messages back and forth. And that was it. I started to think he was not going to call me again. Then 3 days later, he sent me a message asking me what I was up to? I told him the school was closed finally so I was going out of town to see my family and my father - who is very ill - when I asked him what he was doing, he said he's working hard to expend the family company. I told him to take it easy and he said thanks, and that was it! Since then - which has been more than a week, no phone calls, no messages. We're still friends on Facebook, so I can see what he's up to. Ysterday he loaded his ski photos with friends - probably taken last weekend. Anyway, the thing is, I kind of like him, I was willing to give it a shot but apparently he doesn't want to, even though I know he likes me but obviously not enough to call me. I won't call him or send him a message again. But what I know is that he told his friend he was thinking perhaps "I may be too good for him." Well, he likes night life and such and I barely have a nightlife but I am not that prude. I go out at night with friends - but not all the time. Most of my friends call me a princess - I'm not saying this to boast about myself but to give you an image... people usually tell me I'm very beautiful, friendly, clever and polite. But I'm not looking for the perfect guy any more... OK I'm still picky but I just wish if only we could meet a couple of times more... and see if we really fit or not. Btw, he's a capricorn and I am a virgo. I'll be happy if you tell me what you think. Do you think he'll call me? Or we may not see each other again. What should I do? One final thing, I don't know the details but I heard that his last girlfriend was "too demanding"...

Perhaps because you have a BOYFRIEND is the reason he backed off.

Perhaps he thought it would be wiser not to date someone who was all ready taken.

Maybe after meeting you a few times he decided he was just not that into you.

My advice is to be single before you date other guys,have a few months between boyfriends.

One last thing,he has your number ,he knows how to contact you,he's not that busy that he can't spare 30 seconds out of his day to say hello.

But I'm guessing its because you have a boyfriend that he backed off.

Oh I'm sorry my mistake, spelling mistake actually, not my boyfriend, ıt's through my friend's boyfriend we met.

I would never date anyone when I I have boyfriend. I have never done that and do not intend to do so.

Sorry for misleading you, but again I was trying to write " my friend's boyfriend" in the very first sentence. My mistake. So I'd be glad if you could revise your answer accordingly... but no pressure of course :) Thanks for the reply, always.

OK,its really going to be a repeat.

Think of it this way.

He has your number,he knows you like him,and he can contact you,but he has'nt,how long does it take to send a text? 30 seconds.

He may like you but not want to be boyfriend/girlfriend.

He may have met someone else.

The thing is,your worrying about if this guy likes you or not,if he wanted a date,he would ask.

My advice is to,hang out with your friends,have fun,and don't worry too much over it.

There's plenty of guys out there,he's just ONE guy.

Good advice and I know that you are right. I don't know why I'm stuck with him... Perhaps, it's been difficult times for me lately, so I kind of obssess with him unnecessarily. I just would like to know what I did wrong... because at first he looked really enthusiastic. On the other hand, "maybe she's too much for me" says it all... Anyway, thank you again. You're right, he's just ONE guy. And I'm not removing him from my Facebook, otherwise it would be like taking him too seriously, right?

I think that the thing is not to take it personally.

You didn't do anything 'wrong' - you were you and he was him and it wasn't meant to be. If you get what I mean.

There is absolutely no point wondering what you could have done differently because you don't know what's happening in his life, what he's thinking or what he's feeling.

It's really about dealing with your own disappointment. You liked him and hoped the feeling might be mutual, but his mind is clearly on other things.

Take it on the chin, have a laugh about it and move on. (At least you got to see Avatar!)

Thank you Gemini for your thoughtful reply. Yeah I got to see Avatar, lol. I like your positive attitude... there's no point in insisting, thanks again :)

You sound like a stalker. This is just some guy that you saw a few times and sent text messages to, and you're already reviewing his Facebook page, and making assumptions. From what I've read on your post, it seems like you are a little "over-confident" so to speak. I suggest leaving this guy alone to make up his own mind about calling you back- it is up to him, not you.

Thanks for the reply Jamie, I always welcome criticism. I haven't thought of it that way but yeah I may have sounded like a stalker yes, but I'm not like that normally, it hasn't been my intention. I guess I just got over excited because I liked him. However, it was him who told his friend that "I might be too good for him"... I can be "over-confident" I admit that, I'm used to being chased after, but after seeing each other 3 days in a row, and he was looking enthusiastic just like I was, I'm surprised that he suddenly slowed down and then stopped altogether, that's all. Today, I was online on Facebook chat and he was too, but he didn't send a message, neither did I. You're right ,it's up to him, so I won't check his Facebook page any more :) There's one question I want to ask again: if I remove him from my Facebook, will it mean that I was taking him too seriously?

I'd just rather you not be smitten, rush things with this guy and then end up hurt.

Why not just keep him as a friend until you both make up your minds, and he possibly, maybe decides to contact you? Friends before lovers is the way to go. You can learn so much more about this guy as a friend, than if you were tied down in a relationship and "blinded" by "feelings" for him. When a guy says he likes you, take a step back, and give him plenty of room to show his true colors, unfortunately this can take months or even years, almost everyone puts on a "nice guy/girl" façade in the early stages of a relationship. Be cautious and take things slow, and you will be less likely to end up heartbroken.

You are most probably right, Jamie. I know that I should not rush things. But if we are friends then, we must be able to communicate somehow, and we don't. Maybe I could send him a message next time on Facebook? But I don't want to look like I am too desperate :) What do you think?

I will be making assumptions again maybe but I guess he's not over his ex completely. He said something's about her during our conversation with friends, about "how she overwhelmed him" or something like that... she was a lawyer and she threatened to sue him, lol! I don't know the details but as I said before he told his friend that his ex was "too demanding". Anyway, I won't make assumptions any more. Thanks again, I need to take it slow and leave it at that. If it happens ıt happens, if it doesn't then there's nothing I can do...

I'm going to take a different approach. It seems like there's too much dancing around. Be direct. We cannot read his mind, so we have no idea how he really feels.

But we know for sure that you're interested, so why not ask him to go out for coffee again?

If you give up now, yo're always going to wonder...

Yeah that's quite a different approach. :) Yeah so I was the one who asked him out for a movie you know. I did that because I thought maybe he was too shy to ask. He sounded quite happy on the phone when he called me and told me he could pick me up from my house if I wanted him to. So because I made the first move - which I usually don't- I decided to wait for him to ask me out next time. He knows I'm out of town to be with my sick father. I thought maybe at least he could ask me how I was doing or how my father was as an act of curtesy. But as I said, we were on Facebook chat at the same time yesterday but he didn't even say hello. Maybe he thinks it is my turn to text him but I don't know... if a man wants to speak to you he will, right? I wouldn't ask him for the movie if I wasn't interested, he should know that and maybe he's playing on it? Well thank you for your advice <I wish> , I'll certainly consider that too but I'm afraid lol.

Again, we have no idea what's going on his mind. You're the one who's interested, so why not make the next move? Does it really matter who's turn it is?

If he's not interested, then he won't agree to go out with you the next time and you'll know the answer. Then you don't need to keep guessing what's on his mind.

He was on face book and you didn't say HI? Yet he didn't either, so forget him, and whatever his problem is.

You shouldn't have to go through changes just to be friends or friendly, and I can't speak for him, but I think your trying to get him to chase you for no reason at all, should give you a clue as to why he doesn't call you because he wants YOU to do the chasing. I wouldn't chase him at all!

If a guy has enough interest, and no games, he will find a way to let you know. Things happen naturally, or they don't happen. I think the universe has its own reasons things happen.

he wants YOU to do the chasing. I wouldn't chase him at all!

If a guy has enough interest, and no games, he will find a way to let you know. Things happen naturally, or they don't happen. I think the universe has its own reasons why things happen.

Thank you talaniman, very insightful.

I just hate to think that by inviting him to the cinema and then texting him, he would take me for granted. And the only reason that we don't talk right now seems that he has suddenly lost interest or doesn't want to take it further for whatever reason he has on his mind. On the other hand, I am ready and waiting. Pathetic.

Ok enough with this guy. I'm done. I won't push it and he is not pushing it either, so I'll just go with the flow. Thanks to everybody once again for caring enough to answer. I am glad I've found here, I'm glad I've found you. :)

I have some update.

We were again on Facebook chat at the same time and just as I was thinking of whether to say hi or not, he said HI! Asked me how I was doing. We had a brief conversation about his ski trip and once again he asked me if I was skiing or not and I said no, but that I wanted to. And we talked a little bit more about this and that, but he didn't ask me if I was back in town or how my father was etc. And then I said I got to go, bye. He said OK bye. That was it! Not very promising I know and I feel that he wants to keep it superficial or wants to take it reaaallly slow... am I wrong?

It is weird that he didn't say hello the last time we were on chat but this time he did. I know I may have started reading too much into his actions again but I was ready to take him off my mind. In fact, I already have, at least partly.

I wouldn't give him a second thought.