View Full Version : Should I even try to win her back?
Jambrifi13
Jan 29, 2010, 08:19 PM
So me and this girl went out for about 2 months. I know it's not a long time, but I really fell for her. About a week ago she told me she wanted to break up with me. She said the reason was because she didn't like me anymore. A lot of people asked why and their reactions were," That's dumb.", or "? ".. I don't know. But even since we broke up I can't get her out of my head. I know I still really like her, and we even talked about the whole thing. She said she doesn't see us getting back together, but I'd been waiting to go out with her for almost a year and a half, and it FINALLY happen. I do want to win/get her back.. but I don't know what to do. Some of my friends say just to flirt with her, others tell me to tell her how I really feel.. But I'm not sure if she'll understand, or even care...
Basically, I'm deciding on whether to keep fighting and try to get her back, or just give up and try to forget her... : (
CarrotTalker
Jan 29, 2010, 08:29 PM
I'd probably just move on and read the advice throughout this forum.
Not worth the time and effort if she wants to cut it off that early, and you will probably never know the reason.
Scleros
Jan 29, 2010, 08:47 PM
Shame it isn't the other way around with her tripping all over herself trying to win you and posting on here for advice. Bummer.
Oh well, if a choice must be made, pick either one of your self-imposed paths of chase-in-vain or pine-in-solitude. Might even try them both for good measure. No sense expending effort and lavishing your attention on someone who would appreciate it. Either choice is sure to provide ample misery, you can't lose.
P.S. Don't forget to polish her pedestal.
friend4u178
Jan 29, 2010, 08:53 PM
She's made her mind up and at least she's been honest with you.
Leave her alone and keep your dignity.
LifeAfterYou
Jan 29, 2010, 09:01 PM
My ex of 2 years also friends of 3 years before we were together also broke up with me. I have decided to fight for her and wasted 6 months of my life doing nothing and everything else in my life fell apart. It was not worth it.
Do yourself a favour and don't fight for someone who's not willing to fight for you. I have tried everything in the book and let me tell you, nothing works. So leave her alone and find someone else.
ajGambino
Jan 29, 2010, 09:35 PM
Sorry to hear that man. Fact is, she broke up with you because she didn't want to be with you anymore. As much as it pains you, it's the truth and you have to accept that.
You cannot win someone back. Your only shot at getting her back, is if she comes back on her own. Give yourself time to think about this. Really give yourself time to yourself. After that time passes, I'm sure you'll be in a better mindset if she ever does come back.
amicon
Jan 30, 2010, 04:39 AM
Why waste time even thinking about getting back with someone who says they don't like you anymore?
Time to move on and forget about her.
talaniman
Jan 30, 2010, 10:13 AM
You had a chance, it didn't work, let her go, and seek other options.