My desktop icon of my garbage has been deleted and need it back HELP

Hi! kellygideon, welcome to AMHD :)

You don't say what Operating System you have, i.e. 2000, XP, Vista, Win 7

Try checking here for XP or Vista:
How do I make the Recycle Bin appear on my desktop in Windows Vista or in Windows XP? (http://support.microsoft.com/kb/810869)

Even has a fix it button.

This link offers videos:
how to find missing recycle bin - Google Videos (http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=how+to+find+missing+recycle+bin&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=ActgS6GfAp2H8QamlYWPDA&sa=X&oi=video_result_group&ct=title&resnum=4&ved=0CCIQqwQwAw#)