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nurse2006
Jan 24, 2010, 10:37 PM
My eighteen year old just found out that his off and on girlfriend is pregnant. What rights does he have. She is fighting with him and making all kinds of plans saying that our family will not be in child's life I do not believe it is his but how can we know until its born she has lied so many times now it seems like she is trying to make jason want to break up with her

Alty
Jan 24, 2010, 10:46 PM
The only way to know for sure is to have a DNA test done after the child is born, and I suggest you don't put it off, get it done right away, which means hiring a lawyer now.

Once paternity is established your son has rights to either fight for full custody or at the minimum visitation. He'll have to pay child support.

She can threaten all she wants, but if the child is his he has a right to fight for that child and the right to be a part of that child's life. She doesn't have to like it.

I would suggest a lawyer though. That's your best bet, just to make sure all your ducks are in a row.

Good luck.

Synnen
Jan 25, 2010, 06:44 AM
What state are you in?

In some states, your son must register on the Putative Father Registry to have any rights to the child once it is born.

Get a lawyer. He's going to need one--to establish paternity, to set up child support, custody, and visitation, and to make sure that things are done in such a manner that he retains his equal parenting rights.

ScottGem
Jan 25, 2010, 08:01 AM
A father has the same rights to their child as any father whether married or not. The main difference is an unmarried father will have to fight for those rights.

There is a sticky at the top of this forum about Putative Father Registries. I strongly suggest you read it. I also agree that he needs an attorney to properly file all the court actions that will be needed to determine paternity and fight for rights.

nurse2006
Jan 25, 2010, 11:17 AM
We live in Kentucky he doesn't have job right now but is trying to find one she does have a job lives on her own in apt. her mom lives in tenn. Dad is convicted criminal now out living with her who works on the side but doesn't have ged to get job and with record hard to get one.lives off her jason lives with us my husband and I both work and have 4 bedroom home where we will make room for child to stay. Would like shared parenting do you still pay child support if you do shared parenting

JudyKayTee
Jan 25, 2010, 11:25 AM
Yes, a person with shared custody/parenting still pays child support in most cases. I don't see shared parenting of an infant so, yes, he will owe child support.

Your son needs an Attorney because things will only get worse and more complicated.

nurse2006
Jan 25, 2010, 12:01 PM
Why couldn't they share parent an infant she has to work from 8-5 mon-fri I am home all day only work three nights week so I can help with care. She is trying to cut jason out of this child's life except to pay her money.I have a lot of amniosity against this girl because jason just came home from 6 month program so he could get back on his feet she isn't dumb and knew that he was desperate fr her to be with him even though she has lied multiple times. She had one week to get pregnant and she managed it.I am just sad cause this child will pay for it in the end. She is very mean and spiteful. She was all upset when he asked for blood test to make sure child is his.now won't let him be part of the pregnancy or anything she broke up with him and won't even talk to him now d we even have any rights prior to birth she plans on having it in cincinnati not Kentucky we follow Ohio or Kentucky laws??

Synnen
Jan 25, 2010, 12:08 PM
YOU have no rights.

YOUR SON needs to get a lawyer to enforce his rights.

Until the child is born, though, he doesn't have any rights. SHE chooses the hospital, her doctor, and who she chooses to be around. SHE chooses who is in the delivery room. SHE chooses the name for the child.

Get a lawyer for your son, in your state.

JudyKayTee
Jan 25, 2010, 12:12 PM
What is the mother's State of residence? That will determine where papers will be filed.

No one knows 100% what a Court will order until the Court orders it - I have found (and I'm in NY) that it is unusual for a newborn to go from house to house, working mother or not.

Your son will have to file for whatever type of custody he wants and let the Court determine what is in the best interest of the child.

When you go to Court I would display less animosity toward the girl - why you think she plotted and planned this pregnancy doesn't matter. It took two people to create this pregnancy and that's how the Court will look at it. She very well can now say she doesn't want him to have contact with the baby because of his problems (apparently with drugs) and that will have to be addressed at some point by the Court.

You have to see this through the eyes of someone who is not involved - the girl's father lives "off" her; your son appears to be living "off" you. She supports her father; you support your son. Doesn't look good for him.