Ok so I have a weird situation on my hands. For most guys this would be probably the best situation but I am looking for some change. I have been single for a little over two years now. Have completely hated relationships this entire time and just kept everything casual. To be honest it's fun, but it really has led me nowhere and it does get old.

The last few months I have tried to focus more on getting into a relationship and have had absolutely zero luck. Like don't get me wrong, I have absolutely no problem meeting girls and getting numbers or taking them home. Just this weekend I probably got 7 or 8 different phone numbers from going out. I usually end up taking them on a few dates, cooking them dinner a few times or something of that nature but seems like every time they end up deciding just to be "friends with benifits" or whatever you call it rather than dating.

This has probably happened to the last 5 or 6 girls so I wonder what I am doing wrong or if there is something to do to avoid this situation. I know it's weird for a guy to not like this situation but after a while sex with randoms just gets boring and you want more.

It takes time to get into a relationship. And being a friend you get to know a person much better. For a good relationship it's the basic requirement to understand your partner.

So, just relax and give it some time.

Try working on friendships without adding the benefit situation into the mix.
Really get to know the person,as a friend before attempting to take it any further.
Good luck.

I suggest a different approach in meeting new girls. If you notice the same trend with the girls that you do meet, why not try to meet them in different places?

In no particular order:

1) Try dating websites where you can specify that you are looking for a relationship and a casual date.

2) Instead of meeting girls at a club or a bar, try meeting them while volunteering or friends of friends.

3) Instead of jumping into a friends with benefits situation, try talking it out with the girl to see what type of relationship she's looking for.

I recommend that you screen out (friends of friends, by asking them directly, dating site, etc.) the women somehow, before you go in too deep with them.

There's not too much I can add to the other posts.

Perhaps slow things down when you meet someone you like,date,get to know her,do stuff together,talk!

Take stock of your lifestyle,are YOU boyfriend material?

If this happens over and over it must be something you are doing or not doing. All of these girls can’t have issues.

Stop and take a look at yourself:

Do you show your date that you respect her? Don’t be touching her butt before you’ve even talked and kissed.

Do you appear to like your dates too much? If you come on too strong to start with she will put on the breaks and may even slip out the back door! Give her a chance to get to know you.

Do you drink too much on your dates? Slurring your words is just not sexy.

Do you pay for your date or go Dutch? Some people will disagree with this, but I think if you invite her out for drinks/dinner you should be man enough to pay for them.

Do you talk a lot about the type of woman you want? If you do she may feel like you have some kind of checklist you go by and there is no room for error.

Are you a complainer?

Do you come on too needy?

Be honest and work on yourself and be patient. The right girl will come along someday!

It has only been two months since you decided to look for more in a relationship than just friends with benefits.

It takes time. Time and patience. Try not to rush to conclusions with women that they are worth the effort or not. You may be surprised what you can learn over time.

When I met my husband, I thought he was the biggest jerk and was annoyed that my friends insisted on giving him a chance. I did, and the rest is history.

Just be careful not to miss a girl that could turn out to be a great partner.