Okay, people gave me some very good advice the other day. I am back for a bit more and I just want opinions...


So I have been having problems with the girlfriend for the last while and I want to end it and move out (I've been with her for 3 years, we just moved in together about a month ago).



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So her mom bought a new house now that she has a fiancée. Also my gf's brother is living here and his girlfriend is over a lot as well, and its my girlfriend and I in the basement, so basically a bigger house was needed.



I went over to a friends house tonight and had a couple beers while she went to go and run a few errands and then she picked me up and went to her dads to watch a movie with him while I stayed here since I was in a lazy (and frustrated mood). My friend (whos house I was at) is renting a basement apartment and said that I could move in with him since his girlfriend just left him (what a coincidence), it would cost me the Same amount of money to live there that it would here.



When my girlfriend got back from her dads she started going on saying 'I don't want you to leave me, I don't know what my mom would do either since she just bought this house, she wouldn't be able to afford it' (and so on and so on) and I assured her everything was okay, even though I know its not.


Really, I do want to leave but I don't. I know how to be single and I want to be single but part of me doesn't want to be. I think a big problem with her is that she doesn't know how to be single she always wants someone with her, ex. If she wants a cigarette and I don't want one, she'll insist that I come outside with her anyway and I don't because I am trying to cut back and I know if I do I will end up having one.


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Anyway, any advice appreciated. I do and I don't love her anymore. It's hard for ME to explain it however I know a lot of people here will know what I mean.

I just want opinions...

I'm in a lazy mood too so I didn't read your prior posts, but here's mine based on this post.


I want to end it and move out

If that's what you want, do that. Just be bloody sure that's what you want.


she started going on saying 'I dont want you to leave me...

You let a woman guilt you into doing things you don't want to?


she started...I don't know what my mom would do either since she just bought this house...

Not your problem. Anyone with the title of "Mom" who makes a purchase such as a house and is dependent on their daughter's then current boyfriend's rent, well, seriously needs a slap upside the head.

Also, what self-respecting man lives with their girlfriend in their girlfriend's Mom's house's basement?


I assured her everything was okay, even though I know its not.

Don't lie to the gal.


Really, I do want to leave but I don't.

Decide, then act with no regrets.


she always wants someone with her

Not your problem.

Bite the bullet and break up with her-if you know that this is what you want to do.

If you are not happy you shouldn't stay in a relationship that has run its course.

Sounds too me she is insecure. I gather she can'tdo things on her own. If your not happy, there is no reason to continue the relationship. If you continue to do so and proceed with the relationship you must sit down and have a talk with her. She doesn't own you. You are your own person.

If you want to break up with her and move on.. do so! There is no reason for you to stay if you no longer wish to continue the relationship

And def. don't stay because she doesn't want you to leave, if you no longer wish to continue with the relationship... it will probably just get worse between the two of you and not better.. that is, over time.

Also, her mom not being able to afford the house, well that isn't your problem.

Oh with 2 incomes upstairs, I'm 100000% sure they can manage this house no problem at all.

And roxy: your signature saying girls reading twilight does more harm to a relationship that a stripclub... that is the most amazing line I have ever read and since my girlfriend is obsessed with her twilight and "edward" I am going to say this at some point hahahahahaha

This needs to be merged with the previous thread.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/many-things-making-me-angry-starting-resent-dont-know-what-do-431217.html

I am still curious as to why the op moved in with his girlfriend a approximately a month ago knowing that there were problems.

Tell the girl the truth and move out. You shouldn't have moved in in the first place.