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LONELY N HURT
Jan 18, 2010, 07:58 AM
Me and my husband have been married for going on two year he is 33 and I'm 24 we argue a lot and he said things on the phone to his people he wants to be the victim when he hurts me and becomes very abusive with his words... it get to the point where I try to kill myself and just blackout but he doesn't care enough for me to help me he wants me to always be there for him in his time of need but is never there for me... what should I do I can't take it any longer??

J_9
Jan 18, 2010, 08:01 AM
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redhed35
Jan 18, 2010, 08:09 AM
Firstly I would suggest you seek medical attention,see your doctor..

You sound quite depressed and stressed.

After that I suggest you speak to your husband about getting marriage councilling for both of you,and some sort of intervention.

Your marriage has reached breaking point,you need to act,to save yourself and/or your marriage.

Jake2008
Jan 18, 2010, 08:49 AM
The first thing you have to decide is whether you are going to help yourself.

If you are, then get yourself to a woman's shelter, and see what you can do. There are many, many organizations that will help you. Visit your Doctor and he/she too can advise on where to go for help in getting out.

You should be assessed for the depression, and suicide attempts. While it may be caused by your situation, you need to be under medical supervision.

I agree with marriage counselling as an option, once you get yourself together and you are in a position to speak up for yourself, and make your own decisions. You need to be in a position of strength, not weakness, to work on a marriage.

When you can see him, and you are confident on your own, then, and only then can you attempt to solve any marital problems.