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sag007
Jan 15, 2010, 01:47 AM
Edited for chat speak / text talk / grammar / spelling

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Hi...
I have a boyfriend and we've been in a relationship for the past 1 year and even my friend also know that... everything was fine but recently I saw my friend's cell and found her sent item in the cell was to my boyfriend saying that "she has controlled her feelings towards him because of me and she loves him very much"... After seeing that message really I was so shocked I would not react at that moment and kept slient for myself... and didn't ask to her also and him also... I didn't expect that my friend will do that to me as we are so close to each other :( dam it hurt me a lot... when I didn't speak for 2 days, she questioned me what happen and then I told her that I saw the message sent to my boyfriend... so she explained "that day i was depressed so he asked me what's the matter, why so dull and all so i told him that cause of my past love life i'm very much depressed for that and all." So he said me to tell I LOVE U and it will be OK and then she started flirting with him for a while (I don't know how much truth in that), when I asked my guy about this matter he says that you don't trust me and if you don't have trust it's a waste to be together and he explained to me that she is only my good friend nothing more than that I just speak with her closely... I don't know what I should do, its really hurting me still.. I want them both in my life... can any one help me in this situtation?

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amicon
Jan 15, 2010, 02:49 AM
Please rewrite your post not using textspeak as this is not allowed here.

E12191G
Jan 15, 2010, 04:46 AM
Well, first off, your "best" friend telling your boyfriend that is a red flag. Whether or not she's depressed , that's no excuse to go prawl on other peoples boyfriends, let alone yours. I sugest looking more into this friendship of yours, and your boyfriend, well just because someone starts something doesn't mean he had to go with it, it's a choice, and if he's on her side then he must not really care about the relationship THAT much.

amicon
Jan 15, 2010, 04:59 AM
E12-read the sticky regarding no text speak at the top of the page-also read the rules about giving reddies- I politely asked the OP to rewrite her post in normal English-textspeak posts may be deleted,so I was actually giving her good advice.

Romefalls19
Jan 15, 2010, 06:10 AM
Amicon, I have to spread the rep but I agree. Write your posts with a little bit of intelligence, I wonder if kids these days write term papers in this chat speak.

adam_89
Jan 15, 2010, 07:10 AM
How can you guys even read this? I couldn't make it through the first sentence. I must be getting old. I will come back if it is re-written.

I wish
Jan 15, 2010, 08:02 AM
Fair warning: Your text has been edited. Please use proper English in the future or else your thread will be deleted.

My first question is, how old are you?

If you can't trust your boyfriend, then the relationship is over, whether you want it or not.

adam_89
Jan 16, 2010, 07:00 AM
I doubt the OP will come back but if she does then here is what I have to say:

Cut the cord with your boyfriend and you friend. They are both being unfaithful and unloyal. Why be around people you can't trust?

Rachael1904
Jun 2, 2010, 09:00 AM
I would talk to your friend and ask her why she did that and than get someone to ask your boyfriend if he likes her and if he says yes DUMP HIM! But if he says no just keep watching him