Is there something in peticular that made you know for sure? Is true love just faith in another person? Why is it that you can find the perfect person on paper, but you feel no spark? How do you know when to stop looking and there is not something better?


I'm curious on people's opinions/experiences on one or all of these questions :)

When it feels natural.

I think that the two people involved need to give each other a chance to get to know each other first. If things begin to flow naturally, then I think they should give each other more chances to explore the potential.

If there are too many clashes and conflicts without resolution, then it's probably better to go your separate ways.

At the end of the day, it's not easy to find that special person who will reciprocate the same feelings, but by being open to meeting new people, it increases the chances.

Imagine how it feels to find "The One" and then lose them for good, as I have stupidly done. Now I feel I'll never find that feeling again because she was "The One". I feel there is no other.

How do you know when to stop looking and there is not something better?


Few things I look for:

1) When they don't ask stupid questions while I am watching football
2) When they can cook a decent meal
3) When they can drink a beer with me without giving the "bitter beer face"
4) When they can just put up with my sometimes obnoxious behavior without going insane
5) When I can honestly realize that regardless of how hard it is to put up with her, I am ALWAYS the lucky one
6) When we can have a three hour conversation about things that really don't even matter... and when that three hours passes like it was 5 minutes

Now I haven't found that entire combo yet, but that doesn't mean there isn't someone out there for me. It is never about finding something better, it is about finding the right fit for you, and that happens naturally (props to IWish), it isn't planned and you don't have to try or force anything. You know because you know, not because you have some sort of realization. Lastly, you know by feeling a connection in the eyes. Both now, and 50 years from now, the so called "one" still has that impact on you when you make eye contact. The eyes don't lie my friend! At the end of the day, relationships aren't easy, but if they stick with you through all the BS, then consider yourself lucky.

I personally don't believe in “the one.” I believe in true love, and marriage, and monogamy, and falling in head-over-your-heels. But I just don't believe that there is only *one* person out there who could make me happy. So many people are certain they've found “the one” and marry, yet divorce is still prevalent in our society. Why did all these “ones” suddenly become “nothings”? Our tastes change as we get older. What may be “the one” at age 20 can turn out not be “the one” at 50. What if you marry your “one” and 10 years down the road you are bored, overworked, stressed out and lonely. And along comes a guy that makes you feel beautiful who fills you with that same sense of excitement you felt when you were young and fresh. Suddenly you begin to think that maybe he's really “the one” because you can't remember the last time you felt this good. I think it's all a matter of where you are in your life, what your feeling, thinking and dealing with. Life is not a fairy tale. I think if you really want to have “one” and only “one” you better be prepared to do a lot of hard work to keep your relationship viable.

IMAGINE…………………
• Having someone to love you as much as you love him
• Having someone to treat you with the utmost respect, love and kindness.
• Having someone that doesn't take you for granted but loves and cherish you.
• Having someone that understands you.
• Having someone that allows you to be you.
• Having someone that's a good communicator to you.
• Having someone that makes you feel like you're the greatest person on earth, his queen.
• Having someone that enjoys being in your presence.
• Having someone that brings out the best in you

When everyday doesn't feel like a job. There have been some relationships where everything was scripted, like a work schedule. With my fiancé, we work together toward a goal, rather than before it would be the person I was dating and me, each heading towards a goal taking different paths.