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scars_of_an_emo
Jan 12, 2010, 06:57 PM
Me and my girlfriend are taking a break we had been argueing for about 2 months straight and we have been together for almost 15 months I was act like an "A" HOLE for about a month before we went on a break she says she just needs time and a little bit of space I just need to know what to do to make her go crazy and bezerk over me make her go nuts I want her wanting me more than before I don't care how long it takes to get her back I just want her back so please help me someone

jaime90
Jan 12, 2010, 07:37 PM
You want her back. If you read the title of your question, "how do I MAKE my girlfriend want me back..." You may realize that making someone do something is a little manipulative and controlling.

Look at this from a different angle- if you love and respect this girl in your relationship, you would consider her feelings and give her some space.

If you want to, call her up and apologize. Recognize what you've done that your relationship is at the "breaking" point, and fix it! If you have anger issues, go to counseling, if you don't communicate enough, practice discussing things with her, etc.

I can tell one thing you need to work on, just from your question:
Selflessness. Don't focus on yourself, focus on what is best for your girlfriend. It's counter-cultural to be self-sacrificing. And it takes a real man to respect his girlfriend's feelings.

Romefalls19
Jan 13, 2010, 06:34 AM
You can't make anyone come back. You have to continue your life as if they won't come back, because chances are they won't. When someone says they want a break it's usually them saying "I don't want to hurt your feelings but it's over, I hope you stop bugging me now"

So go NC and get on with YOUR life

redhed35
Jan 13, 2010, 06:39 AM
Why do you want someone who does not want you?

It didn't work out this time,lots of relationships don't work out for lots of reasons,chaulk this up to experience and move on.

Devorameira
Jan 13, 2010, 03:55 PM
i just need to know what to do to make her go crazy and bezerk over me make her go nuts i want her wanting me more than before i dont care how long it takes to get her back i just want her back so please help me someone

She's already told you that it's over, so you need to accept it and move on.... there's no magic out there that will make her "go crazy and bezerk" over you or "make her go nuts".

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You take the 'L' out of lover and it's over.

pulso
Jan 13, 2010, 04:53 PM
By the way you express yourself I have a feeling you are young and have a lot of things to learn about relationships why donĀ“t you try buying a book that can orientate you, giving you tips as how to be a true gentleman and that, I hope, may open up your mind so much that "making her " want you back will not be in your mind. But I don under tand what you are trying to say.

asdfa
Nov 3, 2010, 01:14 AM
Sorry man, but what you got to do is act as if she is leaving you. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. My girlfriend and I had this problem and we were on a 3 month break (basically broken up). At the beginning of this break I was centered around her and all my focus was on getting her back. This actually ended up pushing her further away. It came to a point where I accepted defeat, and I started to move on. The second I started focusing on myself (going to the gym, talking to other girls, going to parties) she came crawling right back. My best advice is to do you and give her space. Try talking to her less and paying her less attention and see how she reacts. If she comes back, awesome, if she doesn't, your already on the right path to move on.

CarrotTalker
Nov 3, 2010, 01:52 AM
Hey asdfa, this is an old thread from January and it looks like the original poster has not returned. Please double check the dates before posting.
Thanks.

P.S. good advice though