I met this girl at work and we just clicked the only problem she has a boyfriend and a son and I have a girlfriend. We can't go a day without talking to each other and I just can't get her out of my head we try to just be friend be every time we talk it always comes to us and I don't know what to do help. My girlfriend and I do have a open relationship. Everything that she has its her she paid for it. Here the thing she told him that she in to girls and that did go over well at all he won't let her have friends it has been going worst for her.

It's more about her relationship than yours. Is she prepared to leave her boyfriend? If she does, then where does she go with her son?

Have you thought this through? You are breaking up a family.

My thoughts would be exactly the same if you were a male attracted to a female with a child.

I agree with what Judy said and have a few things to add.

Also though you have to think about the fact that this is not just a decision for her, it's for her son too.

He will have to deal with the same sex relationship and the implications of that too.

The best you could do is to avoid close contact with her. She needs to make this decision for herself and her son on her own, otherwise she may end up resenting you for it.

You have an open relationship with your girlfriend. How open is it? Does it extend to having a second girlfriend? That sounds like what you are wanting. Or are you just looking to get in her bed for a night? What do you really want?

If she does leave her boyfriend, it should be because she doesn't want to be in that relationship anymore. It should not be because she thinks she has another one ready to go. How he treats her may be her deciding factor in what is best for her and their child.

Jumping from one relationship to another is not a good thing to do. You, she, the guy down the street need to have time to heal and get rid of the baggage from the last relationship. That healing process is very important so that the new relationship has less of a chance of being a rebound. It isn't fair to load down a new partner with old baggage.

She is financially stable, I think about things everyday she see her at work, really don't want to break up the family I tell her everyday I want her to be happy even if it not with me.

She is financially stable, I think about things everyday she see her at work, really dont want to break up the family i tell her everyday i want her to be happy even if it not with me.


If you want her to be happy, leave her alone. Let her decide where she wants to be and who she wants to be with without pressure from you.

You have twice mentioned her financial stability. What does that have to do with this?