My question is a little bit embarrassing but I'm going to ask it anyway because it's really been bothering me. I've been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year now, and he's my first real serious boyfriend. We are both 25 yrs old. My boyfriend recently revealed to me that every once in a while he thinks about when he would have sex with his previous girlfriend which turns him on. He's even masturbated to the thought of having sex with her. Both intercourse and oral. I'm embarrassed to ask this question. I'm wondering if this is an indication that there is something wrong in our relationship. He states that everything is great and we don't have any problems in bed. It's just been bothering me since he mentioned it. He says it's no big deal and that all guys do it. I just can't relate because I haven't had fantasies about other guys since I've been with him. Not to say that I don't have the passing thought of "oh, that guys cute" but I don't fantasize about them! Any comments would be appreciated. Thanks.

I'd say something is wrong, I don't think about how it was with my ex, not too mention I certainly wouldn't disrespect my present mate by saying I do

That's normal, just a sex drive xD Men separate sex from love sometimes, there's no need to worry, because he's this honest to u.

That's not what you share with your current partner-it's disrespectful. I smell a rat here.

Don't worry. He's a bit too honest, you didn't need to hear that. What's the point? But hey, I'm a girl and I do that about my ex partners. So what? Let go.

There may or may not be something wrong with the relationship. As far as in bed goes you have an equal share in what you think of that.

But I have to agree I can't think of one good reason to tell you this. Some thoughts are better left unsaid!

On one hand, it's reasonable for you to feel uncomfortable when he shares this type of information with you. Honesty or not, it does raise some red flags when he's still thinking about his ex, sexually.

In the middle hand, I hope that he's mature enough to realize that sharing this information with you is a risky move and that he risks alienating you.

On the other hand, if he is in fact aware that you would be uncomfortable, but still willing to be honest with you, then he probably doesn't think it's a big deal. But you should definitely confront him and ask him why he even bothered sharing this with you in the first place.

You should definitely voice your concerns to him, but it's difficult to control his thoughts and feelings. Keeping your thoughts inside will only build fustration. But at least the situation is out in the open. Now it's how you deal with the situation that counts.