redrumx3
Jan 12, 2010, 12:31 PM
My ex was physically and emotionally abusive and controlling. Despite, I loved his family to bits, and now my mom is dating his dad. Awkward situation in itself. My mom doesn't know the extent of the abuse, but it kind of makes me want to scream when I think about her being in the same room with him. In my mind, he's everything I avoid. But she's finally happy while going through this divorce with my dad, so I'm not about to say anything to take that from her.
Anyway...
Leaving the relationship was hard enough... and he (from my research) exhibited classic behavior by borderline stalking me and trying to shower me with all the love he never gave me, etc. It almost worked.. looking back I'm glad I found the strength to keep moving
Because of his behavior, the guy I'm with now even got into a little brawl with my ex when my he came to his house while I was there. Well, we had broken up, and he was calling non-stop, showed up and a whole scene took place. Even after this happened, he lured me into thinking he would leave me alone if I would, "just talk to him," and ended up forcing things to happen. My boyfriend knows about what happened, and we've moved on from everything.
What he doesn't know is that the guy my mom is dating is actually my ex's dad. It's an issue because his dad never goes anywhere with us, although my mom is always talking to him, etc, and it causes my boyfriend to ask why? (We are all very close). Truth is, my ex's dad loved me to bits as well, and he doesn't really want to see me with another family basically. I've figured step one in the situation is telling my boyfriend who he is.
How do I tell him?
(Sorry if this post is half-venting, but thank you for your time!)
Anyway...
Leaving the relationship was hard enough... and he (from my research) exhibited classic behavior by borderline stalking me and trying to shower me with all the love he never gave me, etc. It almost worked.. looking back I'm glad I found the strength to keep moving
Because of his behavior, the guy I'm with now even got into a little brawl with my ex when my he came to his house while I was there. Well, we had broken up, and he was calling non-stop, showed up and a whole scene took place. Even after this happened, he lured me into thinking he would leave me alone if I would, "just talk to him," and ended up forcing things to happen. My boyfriend knows about what happened, and we've moved on from everything.
What he doesn't know is that the guy my mom is dating is actually my ex's dad. It's an issue because his dad never goes anywhere with us, although my mom is always talking to him, etc, and it causes my boyfriend to ask why? (We are all very close). Truth is, my ex's dad loved me to bits as well, and he doesn't really want to see me with another family basically. I've figured step one in the situation is telling my boyfriend who he is.
How do I tell him?
(Sorry if this post is half-venting, but thank you for your time!)