My boyfriend of 7 months told me a month ago that he was unsure of how he was feeling. He said that he was confused and that he wasn't sure what he was feeling anymore. He acts almost the same as he did when he told me he loved me. Calling me all the time, wanting to see me a lot, planning things we want to do a year from now.

However, he won't tell me he loves me anymore. How can this be when he feels the same and acts the same towards me? He has even told me that everything is the same between us, calling me his girlfriend just the other day.

This morning I asked him if we were together and he said it seems that way. I said but DO YOU WANT TO BE and he said he thinks so. I told him that I'm not waiting around forever, not wasting my time loving someone that doesn't love me back and that he will lose me soon.

Since then he has asked me to stay overnight with him so that we could snuggle several times. He holds onto me as tight as he can and acts exactly the same as when he would tell me he loved me. He didn't even want me to leave the other night but I had some things I needed to take care of so I left. When I left I felt like everything would be OK.. I just had this amazing feeling of calm come over me. He also talks about where we will live in the future if we are still together and everything. Why would he bring these things up on his own if he wasn't in love?

How much longer should I give him when everything seems to be the same except that he doesn't say he loves me?

Should I give him a week? 2 weeks? A month?

Does anyone think that he does love me?

Personally, my belief is, I'm not going to put my life on hold for anybody.

I wouldn't wait around for him to make his mind up.

Who knows how long he intends to sit on his fence not knowing what he feels?

I think there is a big difference between being in love and wanting to hold onto something you still care for. It is hard to let something go. I think only you can answer your question, "Does he love me?"

It should show through his actions that there is genuine love there. There is nothing like love, so read his actions and make a decision based upon that.

That's why I'm so confused.. 95% of his actions point to love.. deep love. Men don't typically call a woman to chit chat for an hour at a time. We talk for at least an hour a day.. sometimes more. You don't picture yourself living with someone that you don't love in the future..

My boyfriend is very much like yours. But lucky you, I'm stuck with my for over two years. Did anything change? No, it's just like you said, I can find myself in each and everyone of your sentences. What's his family background, what about his past relationships? I can only tell this for certain, guys like this don't change easily. Remember this next time when you'll choose who you'll love. Find yourself a normal guy or demand more from this before you get into it too deep. He probably doesn't have a clue what he wants from life in general. Get to know him more. If you have to ask does he love you, you just don't feel loved and he's not helping. I would tell you to get out of this relationship, just not to end up like me if nothing.

loovefool- his family background is tough.. a lot of relationships that didn't work out. He's constantly surrounded by people that are fighting with their bf/gf. I am also the first relationship he is in and the first person he fell in love with. When it first happened he told me that he's never felt this way before about anyway. Maybe he's afraid of his strong feelings for me and he's not familiar with them? I told him many times since that I'm not looking to get married or have children or move in with him anytime soon. He seems to be more relaxed since I explained this.

He's also coming to my friend's husband's show which I think is a huge step for him since he is super shy. He wouldn't put himself in an uncomfortable situation like this if he truly didn't love me!

I don't know what exactly is going through his mind but I don't know how much longer I can be calm like this. Good luck with your relationship!