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CFZD
Jan 7, 2010, 08:07 PM
I am 24 and never had a boyfriend, I don't know what to think any more.

I am a positive person, but no matter how happy and positive I am... there is always times especially when I am alone.. I start to think about why I am still single.

I am a strong person too ( I try not to show my emotions), there have been many times I overcome hardship on my own. Most of the time I don't feel I need anyone, but I really would like to meet someone to share my happiness with.

I think it's normal to want to meet someone at my age, I have waited so long and focused so much on my personal development and professional development, when is the time for me to meet someone? How to start?

valkman98
Jan 7, 2010, 09:01 PM
I would guess you are because you want to be. Making something of yourself before getting involved is OK, ducks in a row so to speak. Sounds like you are ready to find someone, so start looking. Make a list of what you like/need in a partner and find them. Take you time,shop a bit and then make up your mind. He is out there, might not be the 1st guy but you will know . Good luck and have fun looking.

sandalwood7
Jan 7, 2010, 09:24 PM
It definitely sounds like you are ready to meet someone...

You are still young and there is lots of time still.

Meeting someone takes both effort on your part, and luck. If you are open to meeting people and make effort to meet people and talkto people, then hopefully one day you will meet someone that you fall in love with.

You can't hurry things like this. You can never know who your will meet, or when or where you willmeet them. But the world is big, and there are so many people to meet,so just be patient!

CanIBuyAClue
Jan 7, 2010, 09:43 PM
You're not alone in this endeavor. I had just turned 24 when I started dating my now ex-girlfriend, and she is what I would consider my first long-term girlfriend. It's not because there is anything wrong with you. In my case I was just busy getting through College, working out, and working part-time to pay for school so having time to devote to someone was not a priority for me. It wasn't until I joined the work force that I thought that I could juggle a relationship. Just be patient, relationships tend to just happen when you least expect them. Don't get too antsy in looking because then you'll discourage yourself if nothing comes along. Don't be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. Be picky!

teastalk
Jan 8, 2010, 02:42 AM
Don't worry. They'll all come a-knocking next year. Be glad that you're free to date many right now. Perhaps there will be someone who comes along who wants to date you, and you will have a difficult time telling them you aren't interested.

artlady
Jan 8, 2010, 02:53 AM
Perhaps because you are a strong professional intelligent woman you are perceived as somewhat unapproachable?

At the risk of generalizing,I have to say many men are intimidated by women who they think might be out of their league.

Rather than risk that dreaded rejection,they simply don't approach a woman.

Work a little on your body language,making yourself more approachable.Mirroring is a good technique to get people to feel comfortable with you.

Here is a link to a site I hope you will find interesting.It is a site where like minded people get together to do community projects,share hobbies,do fun things together.

Not a dating site per se but a way to make new friends.


Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup.com (http://www.meetup.com/)

redhed35
Jan 8, 2010, 03:47 AM
A strong happy intelligent women will attract a strong intelligent man,mostly the jerks won't bother because it too much like hard work.

Take a minute to look at your appearance... seriously,classy but sexy goes a long way and is a timeless image.. mostly men are visual creatures.

Being happy on your own is so rewarding,and a happy you with a full life BEFORE a relationship will help build a strong foundation.

If your trying to meet guys,try the gym,swimming or a sport,liberary, etc. but don't go with the intention of checking out the guys,go for the fun and let them check you out!

Let friends and family know your ready to date,you never know who they might know.

CFZD
Jan 8, 2010, 02:01 PM
I still don't know what to say...

I won't move just to meet someone, I have a career I am staying for!

redhed35
Jan 8, 2010, 02:04 PM
I still don't know what to say...

I won't move just to meet someone, I have a career I am staying for!

God no,don't move!

Your career is important,and so is your life...

If your family are not close by how about friends and work mates?

CFZD
Jan 8, 2010, 02:26 PM
Excellent work mates, I enjoy what I do and the people I am working with :) But we are all professionals,and acting very professional, super busy with our tasks.

I tend to share more interest and values with the older and mature group but they all have their family, not able to hang out on weekends.

A few young friends are busy with their bfs/gfs, so most of the time they aren't available.

New friends I met lately, don't seem genuine to hang out. When I called them, they never had time to hang out.

I try my best, but...