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mithke
Jan 5, 2010, 10:23 PM
My girlfriend lives in canada, I live in miami. I visited her on her b-day. I was in contact with her older sister to who I am NOT attracted to and I told her I was visiting. My girlfriend became VERY upset. She stopped talking to me and when I finally got her to talk she said her friends said that I should just be a practice boyfriend. It really hurt my feelings and I still think about what her friends said. I feel like Im just an experiement to her. For her to test what is acceptable and what is not in a relationship.
I have really low self-esteem, she doenst know this, but I think a regular person would have left her... idk what to do

Alty
Jan 5, 2010, 10:31 PM
Something doesn't make sense.

Why is she so upset that you contacted her sister? Did something happen?

You girlfriend sounds very immature. She's also very hurtful.

It's up to you whether you want to put up with that, because it's unlikely that she'll change.

If she hurt your feelings, tells her. Talk to her. Ask her why she's being so hurtful. If you can't talk to her then you may as well break up now, because you don't have a relationship if you can't communicate.

amicon
Jan 6, 2010, 01:28 AM
You know, as person who talks and listens to their friends rather than the person they're with has a serious problem-why would you want her in your life if she can't communicate with you?

Romefalls19
Jan 6, 2010, 06:23 AM
I'm with amicon. Why be with someone who doesn't seem to be able to make up her own mind, she needs someone else to do it for her. I'd tell her that you deserve better and aren't going to tolerate this "trial" boyfriend crap

HistorianChick
Jan 6, 2010, 06:48 AM
I'm confused. Alty is right, there is a LOT of information left out... or, your girlfriend is acting like a high school girl who can't decide which boy she wants to take her to the prom.

You shouldn't be a practice boyfriend... you deserve a real girlfriend.

I'm sorry, but this girl has got to go.

talaniman
Jan 6, 2010, 08:06 AM
Disappear from her life, and let her practice on someone else. You don't need her BS!

I wish
Jan 6, 2010, 11:07 AM
How old are you?

We have no idea what's going on in her mind. But actions speak louder than words. She obviously doesn't take you seriously, so why would you take her seriously?

Go your separate ways.