View Full Version : Is OK to date while you are separated?
jose1212
Jan 4, 2010, 10:03 PM
Is OK to date while you are separated?
jaime90
Jan 4, 2010, 10:14 PM
Yes. You are separated for a reason.
amicon
Jan 4, 2010, 10:15 PM
Can you give us more information please?
jose1212
Jan 4, 2010, 10:22 PM
Can you give us more information please?
We been living for 11 years, she say she is not sure that she love me and she move out a month a go, now she is going through consuling, and she say that she wants to meet other people to find out if she really love me, and if she come back we can get married. She say is nothing wrong and people do it all the time
jaime90
Jan 4, 2010, 10:26 PM
Love is a choice. Your partner should've chosen to love you a long time ago. 11 years is too long to live with someone without knowing if you love them or not. It's true that some people do it. If she sleeps with someone while you are separated and then tries to come back there's a good chance she will lose trust with you.
amicon
Jan 4, 2010, 10:32 PM
As you are separated what she does is her choice, as what you do is yours. Were you to attempt getting back together,whatever either of you did during the separation is something you'd have to work through when/if that happens.
jose1212
Jan 4, 2010, 10:37 PM
She move out two other times in the 11 years, for a month, know she say she need more time because the past times was to short , and I feel like if she going out with some body else is cheating, because we trying to fix things out,
amicon
Jan 4, 2010, 10:42 PM
How are you trying to work things out? If she's moved out and is in counselling for herself,it seems to me that she's working on herself,not the relationship.
jose1212
Jan 4, 2010, 10:50 PM
How are you trying to work things out? If she's moved out and is in counselling for herself,it seems to me that she's working on herself,not the relationship.
That's what I think, because I suggest that we should do it together, but she say she need space and she need to work her things out first, she got a lot of pressure from her sister,
jose1212
Jan 4, 2010, 11:00 PM
Thank you amicon
amicon
Jan 4, 2010, 11:08 PM
You're welcome Jose'-I'm signing off now.
Take care.
Romefalls19
Jan 5, 2010, 06:12 AM
In the words of Yoda "Separated you are, date you must"
talaniman
Jan 5, 2010, 09:52 AM
You wait 11 years to go through this crap? Sorry guy, but disappear, and do your thing, and don't even worry about working things out. Why?
If any one needs to stop even talking to someone its YOU!!