View Full Version : I am a virgin
simplepine
Jan 3, 2010, 07:00 PM
Ok, so pretty much here is the jist.
My current girlfriend, has had sex with 2 other people before me.
I haven't had sex, and sadly like a lot of other people, my sex education comes from watching pornography.
What I am really worried about, is;
A. I think it might be awkward the first time.. anyway of avoiding this?)
B. what if I don't last long enough.. (is there any "exercises" I can do to last longer?)
C. How do you actually please a girl with your penis, Because they say, so many girls fake orgasms, and have never had an orgasm with a man. What are some techniques, I've looked everywhere for the answer to question, and I can't find it!
D. I have no idea what size condom to buy, or what type.. i.e. Thick? Thin? Studded? Etc etc
-I am not going to go buy a book, a hooker, or a video on education...
Those are all what people have told me. I'm looking for honest advice,
Mostly to B and C (more C) but answers to any would be so helpful, Thank you.
simplepine
Jan 3, 2010, 07:00 PM
And I can't edit my post, Also, please don't laugh.
hheath541
Jan 3, 2010, 07:11 PM
Here are some links that might help you with D.
CONDOM SIZE CHART (http://condommonologues.com/condom-size-chart/)
Condom Size Chart - Choosing a Condom (http://std.about.com/od/condoms101/a/condomsize.htm)
How old are you simplepine?
simplepine
Jan 3, 2010, 07:16 PM
Thank you for those, it helps, anyone else have answers to the other questions? :(
simplepine
Jan 3, 2010, 07:16 PM
how old are you simplepine?
19
Fr_Chuck
Jan 3, 2010, 07:22 PM
So you are awkward, most people are with a person the first time,
Having sex and making love are to completely different things, learning that foreplay and making the other happy long before the sex starts is the most important thing.
And what one lady likes is not the same as another, one method for one, may not work at all on another.
Pleasue comes from emotional connections and hours of talk about what each other likes and what each can do to improve
ScottGem
Jan 3, 2010, 07:23 PM
Ok, what you need is to pay attention to your girlfriend. Concentrate on pleasing her. Especially if she knows your situation (and I see no reason not to tell her).
Sex is not about sticking a penis into a vagina. Sex is about two people sharing the intimacy and pleasure their bodies can give. You tell us you are a virgin, but you don't indicate whether you have been intimate with her previously. If you haven't go slow, learn what gives each other pleasure, don't rush to insertion. If you have been intimate, there work up to it, building the sensations until you are both ready for insertion.
One more point to add, NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are fully ready to have a child together.
simplepine
Jan 3, 2010, 07:27 PM
Ok, what you need is to pay attention to your girlfriend. concentrate on pleasing her. Especially if she knows your situation (and I see no reason not to tell her).
Sex is not about sticking a penis into a vagina. Sex is about two people sharing the intimacy and pleasure their bodies can give. you tell us you are a virgin, but you don't indicate whether you have been intimate with her previously. if you haven't go slow, learn what gives each other pleasure, don't rush to insertion. if you have been intimate, there work up to it, building the sensations until you are both ready for insertion.
One more point to add, NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are fully ready to have a child together.
I feel a like less of a man, that I haven't had sex and she has.
We have be inimate, but not to that extent. And I don't plan on rushing into it, its just that if the opertunity shows itself I want to be ready :(
A. I think it might be awkward the first time..anyway of avoiding this?)
Unfortunately, it will be awkward your first time, but if your girlfriend knows this, she should be patient with you.
B. what if i don't last long enough..(is there any "exercises" i can do to last longer?)
You may not your first time, but experience is everything. Foreplay is very important.
C. How do you actually please a girl with your penis, Because they say, so many girls fake orgasms, and have never had an orgasim with a man. What are some techniques, I've looked everywhere for the answer to question, and i can't find it!
This comes with practice as well. Let her tell you what she likes.
D. I have no idea what size condom to buy, or what type.. i.e. Thick? thin? studded? etc etc
This too comes with experience, you try them all out, see what ones you and she like best.
And you want to shave your pubic hair?
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/length-pubic-hair-431093.html
You and Cpatty have the same IP address... wanna fill us in?
ScottGem
Jan 3, 2010, 07:53 PM
You and Cpatty have the same IP address....wanna fill us in?
Can you say troll?
simplepine
Jan 4, 2010, 10:23 AM
Thank you very much, all of you, This helps me Tremendously
ScottGem
Jan 4, 2010, 10:30 AM
thank you very much, all of you, This helps me Tremendously
We are still waiting for an answer about who Cpatty is!
simplepine
Jan 4, 2010, 10:39 AM
Can you say troll?
No its my brother who showed me this site, we live together, and I figured I can post here as well.
Instead of making a post under his name, I can make a new username so they don't think that he is a virgin, etc etc
I didn't think that 2 usernames per IP is against the rules. Sorry if I made you angry.
ScottGem
Jan 4, 2010, 10:41 AM
Its not against the rules, but it is too often abused by people. That's why we question it when it happens. Thanks for the explanation.
simplepine
Jan 4, 2010, 10:45 AM
Its not against the rules, but it is too often abused by people. That's why we question it when it happens. Thanks for the explanation.
OK.
m!sz89
Mar 20, 2010, 07:43 PM
My first time was with someone more experienced also. It started awkward but I think the key to all of that is foreplay.. not only does foreplay get you in the mood, but it also makes you feel more comfortable which will help you in moving how you feel and not holding back. And something that helps with my current boyfriend is that he masturbates and gets the first "nut" out of the way first.. I don't know exactly how that works being a female and all but the second time around after him already getting off, makes it last a lot longer than it does before he masturbates.. hope it helps
eeeman
Mar 28, 2010, 03:36 PM
I was also 19 my first time... with a girl who had been with far more than 2 guys... I just told her I was a virgin, sure it's embarrassing, but it took a lot of pressure off me.
I'm sure I still sucked the first time... but practice makes perfect.
Gemini54
Mar 30, 2010, 12:19 AM
I think that the thing that you need to do is accept that you're new at it and that it may not all be bells and whistles the first time. It may comfort you to know that sex can also be awkward and unsatisfying - even for the very experienced.
Try to focus on the sensations and the fact that you like your GF, rather than the techniques you're using - good sex is about connection not about positions. Remember, porn is just a fantasy, it has very little connection to reality.
Cat1864
Mar 30, 2010, 08:46 AM
Hopefully, since January, everything has worked out for him. :)
Klumster
Mar 31, 2010, 09:47 PM
My first time was with a girl who had already had sex with 2 other people, one who was a boyfriend of 5 years so she got a lot of experience from him. We we were lying in bed making out and clothes starting coming off to get comfortable. The making out continued and I wasn't shaking at this point until she said she was getting dizzy. I was like are you okay? She was like when I'm dizzy I mean I'm horny. So then I was like I can help you out with that. She giggled and we continued making out in our underwear. We started dry humping each other and I started shaking nervously real bad. She kind of had a hint that I was a virgin and asked me if this was my first time and I told her yes. I thought she was going to be like WHAT?! Instead she smiled and said ooo even better and that's when it started to heat up. (She was teasing me) about 5min of dry humping she threw me back and she asked me if I wanted to get in the shower. I said hell yes so we rushed into the shower and started to foreplay. We did that for about 30min and I finally told her I was ready to lose it to her so we ran back into the bed all wet and that when I stuck my P in her V. I only lasted for 2min and blew all over her leg lol. She smiled told me congrats and said I lasted longer than her boyfriends first time and the other person she had sex with. I was so nervous at first but she helped me calm down and took her time with me which helped. It is April now so I hope you got a little action from your girl man. First time is never your best performance. It takes time and practice. You'll get better after awhile and oh by the way I was 21 when I lost mine V-card.