miami72
Jan 3, 2010, 12:31 PM
Am I being irrational? Should I stay or leave? Is this a good relationship & I am just an unhappy & selfish person?
I have been in a relationship for 7 years with a man I used to describe as "my rock."
The first 3 years living together were great. I kept waiting for a proposal & knew I would say yes, when asked. We would take turns choosing new things to do and would share efforts in both indoor & outdoor projects. We would do things w/ other couples. We enjoyed our sex life, showered together and would linger in bed & visit. He would tell me I was a great person. And I enjoyed doing things for him.
Now, I think I should leave. We are barely a couple. We have no intimacy in our relationship and have had sexual relations once in the past 4 years. I have tried everything I can think of to help things get better. I have asked him what I can do to help things be better - nothing. I shared with him ways he could help me feel more loved, so that I could be a better partner (per the 5 love languages) - nothing. At the same time, he says he wants us to be together. Well, I don't think I do... I want a husband & I want children and I want someone to hold me & kiss me & laugh with me & tell me I am as important as a laptop (maybe even more). He says that we have a normal relationship & that I am overly sensitive and usually follows this with a statement about it being time to take a xanax (something I never needed until about 4 years ago).
Seriously, I am 37, have always been the one to end a relationship & am starting to wonder... is it me? Should I leave?
He thinks 2 homes & a dog make live full...
I have been in a relationship for 7 years with a man I used to describe as "my rock."
The first 3 years living together were great. I kept waiting for a proposal & knew I would say yes, when asked. We would take turns choosing new things to do and would share efforts in both indoor & outdoor projects. We would do things w/ other couples. We enjoyed our sex life, showered together and would linger in bed & visit. He would tell me I was a great person. And I enjoyed doing things for him.
Now, I think I should leave. We are barely a couple. We have no intimacy in our relationship and have had sexual relations once in the past 4 years. I have tried everything I can think of to help things get better. I have asked him what I can do to help things be better - nothing. I shared with him ways he could help me feel more loved, so that I could be a better partner (per the 5 love languages) - nothing. At the same time, he says he wants us to be together. Well, I don't think I do... I want a husband & I want children and I want someone to hold me & kiss me & laugh with me & tell me I am as important as a laptop (maybe even more). He says that we have a normal relationship & that I am overly sensitive and usually follows this with a statement about it being time to take a xanax (something I never needed until about 4 years ago).
Seriously, I am 37, have always been the one to end a relationship & am starting to wonder... is it me? Should I leave?
He thinks 2 homes & a dog make live full...