I LOVE MY English teacher, she means so much to me. Without her I really don't know where I'd be, but everyone mocks me because I love her. No one understands my feelings, I am really so sad. Why? Is it a crime to love a teacher? Oh help me I am really so sad :(

Can I ask what age you are?

A lot of teens fall for a teacher,its quite common and having crushes on teachers is all part of growing up,however in saying that,it would be unprofessional for your teacher to do or say anything to promote these feelings.

I suggest you hang out with your friends and have fun with them.

I am 16! believe me you don't understand my feelings.I love her more than anything in the world she is a mother to me.I was lost but she came to my life to guide me,she made me a better person and for her I give my all and I would die.she loves the way I love her and she is always with me!!

I am grateful to her for everything!

I'm not quite sure I understand your question,can you clarify?

I love her and she feels the same.she means everything to me.I love her since 2007 and my love for her stills the same!! my friends mock me because I love a teacher they say I am crazy AM I?


THANK U for all your care I am really happy for thisUR GREAT AND I MEAN IT!

I am so confused right now. What are you wanting from us? To find out if you are crazy?


I was brushing up on some of your other posts. You had a lot of posts concerning writing a song about a girl who loves her teacher so much. I find it very obsessive the kind of behavior you are showing.

I want to know this:is it a crime to love a teacher?

WHY don't u understand me?

No, it is not a crime but you are 16 and it is not love. It is a crush. You will have many in your life and this will pass. To save yourself some embarrassment and the teacher as well you should probably let this be as far as it goes.

YEAH I love my teacher and so what?if you see what she've done to me you won't say this at all.I am sorry for annoying :(

You are not annoying me by any means. I am just trying to help you understand some things about love and what the difference is between love and a crush. You say you love her but how does she feel? You know if she did for some reason love you too it could end her career at her school and probably every school in the country?

She loves me as her daughter she is always with me whenever I need her.I really understand the difference between love and a crush.look I just love her the way I love my mother no more!

She is like a mother to me really!


Thank you for understanding me anyway I will always be grateful!

Ok, if that is the only love you have for her then there is nothing to worry about and you shouldn't care what anyone says. You are fine with the feelings you have.

Yeah this is what I feel for her she is such an amazing teacher that no word can truly tell.I ve written to her more than 40 poems and even songs

That is very nice of you to do that. As long as you are happy then that is all that matters.

Thank u! your so good to me adam and I like this

Nothing lasts,

You said that she loves you too, that you know she does. What kind of things do you two do together? Has she told you she loves you?

There is a problem with this. If she is trying to cultivate a relationship with you, no matter how innocent it may be, she could still get into a lot of trouble.

Teachers aren't supposed favor anyone. They're there to teach, not to love.

Nothing lasts,

You said that she loves you too, that you know she does. What kind of things do you two do together? Has she told you she loves you?

There is a problem with this. If she is trying to cultivate a relationship with you, no matter how innocent it may be, she could still get into a lot of trouble.

Teachers aren't supposed favor anyone. They're there to teach, not to love.

I think there is something deeper going on and the OP should talk to a professional about it. When someone mentions help and how they did things for them and obsessive love then there may be lines crossed that aren't written here. There is a syndrom called nitightingales syndrom and it involves people becoming obsessed with those that have helped them through a struggle or through trauma.

And to the OP. Have you written your own mother songs and done things like you have with your teacher ?

You mean you love her as a friend/family
Or do you LOVE LOVE her as a significant other

Hello nothing:

You think your English teacher is amazing, but it ain't cause she taught you English.

excon

Yah you should give up on your crush it is illigal to act on it

How does your biological mother feel about this relationship?

You say "you don't know what she has done for me". What exactly has she done that is so wonderful?

You say that the other kids pick on you about this relationship? Do you share your inner most feelings with them? You should know at your age that kids jump on anything that would seem odd. So why do you let them know?

And what are you going to do when she is no longer your teacher?

She is no longer my teacher and I still love her as my best friend.I was lost and unhappy but she came to my life to show me the right way.I love her the way I love my mother no more!

I love her because she taught me english very well and she is really amazing.she is no longer my teacher but I still love her like before.it is an inocent love be sure!

Okay, I understand fully because I'm in the same problem but he's my old historey teacher. It hurts. I know that. Im still having a problem getting along in my life. But as for the people who tell you your only 16 screw them Because they won't know when your in love only you will. I do think You should wait till your 18 so she don't get into trouble. My old teacher is Married though. Ita hard because I fell as if I can't live without him. But there nothing anyone can say, this is too you her and god. Talk to your teacher. I hope for the best and any way I can help I'm here. Let me know how things go.

Okay, I understand fully because im in the same problem but hes my old historey teacher. It hurts. I know that. Im still haveing a problem geting along in my life. But as for the people who tell you your only 16 screw them Because they wont know when your in love only you will. I do think You should wait till your 18 so she dont get into trouble. My old teacher is Married tho. Ita hard because i fell as if i can't live without him. but there nothing anyone can say, this is too you her and god. Talk to your teacher. I hope for the best and any way i can help im here. Let me know how things go.

So your teacher took advantage of you naivety and innocence and made you rely on him to the point that you can't function in every day life because he's not there?

You think this is a good thing?

To top it all off this man is married. Did you two have an actual relationship or was it all in your head? Because if he touched you in an way that's inappropriate, he belongs in jail.

Please do not encourage someone to fall in love with and have a romantic relationship with an adult when they're only a child. It's immoral!

I am an english teacher myself, and being quite young I know how boys tend to think. I have favourites in my class but not the relationship your teacher shares with you. Do you "love" her or lust after her? What do you mean when you say that she feels the same way about you? Believe me when I tell you that you are going to grow up and meet some body more wonderful.

SHE LOVES ME LIKE HERR DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER THE WAY I LOVE MY MOTHER BELIEVE MEcause only her who helped me and see this song I ve written about her and then you will understand:
No one cared about what I felt
No one understood my sorrow
But you came to my life
To give me hope for a better tomorrow
No one felt my pain
When I was in the 8 grade
No one but u
This act I will never forget my whole life through
(chorus)
Thank you for everything you ve done
But do you do the same things with anyone
Thank you anyway
For being the teacher your
Your an amazing person
Your a shining star

SHE LOVES ME LIKE HERR DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER THE WAY I LOVE MY MOTHER BELIEVE MEcause only her who helped me and see this song i ve written about her and then u will understand:
no one cared about what i felt
no one understood my sorrow
but u came to my life
to give me hope for a better tomorrow
no one felt my pain
when i was in the 8 grade
no one but u
this act i will never forget my whole life through
(chorus)
thank u for everything u ve done
but do u do the same things with anyone
thank u anyway
for being the teacher ur
ur an amazing person
ur a shining star

I'm wondering what she taught you. She obviously didn't teach you proper English.

We don't allow text talk here, you're old enough to write in complete sentences with proper punctuation.

SHE LOVES ME LIKE HERR DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER THE WAY I LOVE MY MOTHER BELIEVE MEcause only her who helped me and see this song i ve written about her and then u will understand:
no one cared about what i felt
no one understood my sorrow
but u came to my life
to give me hope for a better tomorrow
no one felt my pain
when i was in the 8 grade
no one but u
this act i will never forget my whole life through
(chorus)
thank u for everything u ve done
but do u do the same things with anyone
thank u anyway
for being the teacher ur
ur an amazing person
ur a shining star
Well, in that case I'm happy that you had someone to guide you through your tough times. :o My favourite teacher till today is my eighth grade english teacher. Met her just last week after a long time, still love and respect her very much.

My favourite teacher till today is my eighth grade english teacher

What happened today to change your mind?

You said that you're an English teacher, so tell me, what's wrong with the sentence you wrote?

I'm not buying it.

What happened today to change your mind?

You said that you're an English teacher, so tell me, what's wrong with the sentence you wrote?

I'm not buying it.

While your mother tongue is english, mine is tamil. And I'm pretty sure that my english is good enough for people to understand me.

Your right! thanks for understanding me anyway!!

She taught me to be strong she taught me that life is like a train she taught me to be me she showed me that dreams come true.I really don't understand what do u want to know exactly .

Nothing lasts, the problem is not the fact that you care about your teacher, the problem is that you're obsessed with her. If anyone reads your other threads and posts, it's all about your teacher.

This isn't normal, nor is it healthy. That's why we're concerned.

Obsession is never good and you're obsessed. If you had a normal adoration for your teacher that would be fine, but the level of obsession you have isn't.

Of course you don't see it, that's the way it usually is when someone is obsessed, they don't see that it's not healthy and it's gotten out of hand.

If you show this level of obsession to this teacher then I see a restraining order in your future. The way you post about this obsession gives me chills and they're not good chills. I can only imagine how this teacher feels, unless of course she's encouraging all of this in which case my first fear would come into play, that she's using a young, naïve, innocent girl for her own means.

I know you won't agree, but those are the red flags I'm seeing.

What happened today to change your mind?

You said that you're an English teacher, so tell me, what's wrong with the sentence you wrote?

I'm not buying it.

Alty had to spread some rep but I caught that too. Really, I am only an English Undergrad and your telling me you don't see the mistake here?

While your mother tongue is english, mine is tamil. And i'm pretty sure that my english is good enough for people to understand me.

Actually, my "mother tongue" is German.

The fact is, you claim to be an English teacher yet you don't write like one.

For example, in this sentence, it's I'm, not I'm and English should have a capital as well.

I just find it odd that an English teacher doesn't write proper sentences.

Alty had to spread some rep but I caught that too. Really, I am only an English Undergrad and your telling me you don't see the mistake here?!

Exactly! We all make mistakes, but every post this supposed English teacher has written is full of errors. I'm just not buying it.

Also, why would anyone encourage the obsessive, potentially destructive, behavior of the OP?

What happened today to change your mind?

You said that you're an English teacher, so tell me, what's wrong with the sentence you wrote?

I'm not buying it.



Read the other posts - you'll "buy it" even less!

Any student who loves a teacher as much as he/she loves his/her mother has been set up by the teacher.

I see this as a form of child abuse.

I see this as a form of child abuse.

Having a MIL that is a 4th grade teacher, I almost take offense to this. Sorry Judy, no harm here. But my MIL is one of these teachers that stays with their favorite students for the rest of their lives.

She believes that, just as doctors and nurses take oaths to "do no harm," she took an oath, as a teacher, to mold the futures of these children, some of whom come from very unstable homes. She has bought entire Christmases for some of these children who had nothing. She's made sure they had coats on their backs in the winter and food in their bellies. Thus, some of her "children" who are now grown, still keep in touch with her, have named their children after her, etc.

So, I don't see this as child abuse, but maybe a teacher who feels the same, although the OP has become obsessed.

I don't see that the teacher has a problem, necessarily, but the OP does.

However, we cannot speak for the teacher as we don't know her side of the story.

And I had a favorite teacher, someone who actually shaped my life, encouraged me, inspired me. Your MIL sounds exceptional but I think the majority of teachers are.

This could go on all day but the OP has said that his friends mock him out because of his "love" for this teacher; he "loves" the teacher more than his mother - agreed that I am reading something more into this (something I always criticize when others do it) BUT I find it difficult to believe that the teacher is not aware of OP's feelings and along the idea of "do no harm" has a duty/responsibility to address the situation, somewhat distance herself before the OP becomes even more obsessed.

Not stepping on anyone's toes (I always wanted to teach English, that's my undergrad degree, my life went in another direction) but this seems (to me) like more than a harmless crush.

I notice the OP has 4 (or 5 ?) threads about her love for this teacher, everything from writing songs to stories and back again. This is an obsession and someone else has to see it.

I notice the OP has 4 (or 5 ?) threads about her love for this teacher, everything from writing songs to stories and back again. This is an obsession and someone else has to see it.

I agree completely.

Ref previous post by me:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/love-english-teacher-so-much-crime-430581-2.html

I believe its an obsession too.

And I had a favorite teacher, someone who actually shaped my life, encouraged me, inspired me. Your MIL sounds exceptional but I think the majority of teachers are.


I agree with you. I was just saying that I don't think this verges on abuse, but rather on the OPs obsession that's not healthy.

I don't understand u guys!just answer my question:is it a crime to love a teacher?

This was answered above in #8 - and then that answer ("no, it is not criminal") has been repeated throughout the thread.

Are you trolling for attention?

By the way, has she ever discussed the need to use proper English and spelling with you?

What do you mean ha?listen to me this teacher changed my life and I loved her as I love mum I guess this is not a mistake
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I am watching talking and saying bla bla bla its like your living wz me to judje me.I won't let anyone of you to talk about my teacher because you don't know her and you don't know how I love her.so *** stop all this ENOUGH!

i am watching talking nd saying bla bla bla its like ur living wz me to judje me.i wont let anyone of u to talk about my teacher because u dont know her nd u don't know how i love her.so *** stop all this ENOUGH!

Sorry, don't understand a word you typed. Could you please type in complete words and sentences like the rules at the site require?

If you loved your English teacher so much then why did you NOT pay attention in her class, and learn her teachings? You're using lazy "textspeak", and it's against the site rules. This gibberish has to be translated.

You asked a question. You got answers. Now, after 8 months have passed, you come back to argue.

I wonder what has happened to you in this time that you feel the need to beat this dead horse?

No, it's not a crime to love your teacher. God wants us to love each other. In a healthy manner.

You'll look back one day and see how silly, and disrespectful, you're being to ADULTS.

Go study.

Okay, we've seen a photo of the OP. I think I'd like to see a photo of the teacher - as well as her credentials because her student is getting nothing from the class.

Well, as the old expression goes - " its like ur living wz me to judje me."

Note the writing style changes from post to post:

"I LOVE MY English teacher, she means so much to me. Without her I really don't know where I'd be, but everyone mocks me because I love her. No one understands my feelings, I am really so sad. Why? Is it a crime to love a teacher? Oh help me I am really so sad"

My brain hurts. I don't think that's even chat speak, that's just plain laziness and bad grammar.

I have to wonder if the English teacher that changed her life realizes that she didn't learn a darn thing in her class.

I have to wonder what the teacher changed. She certainly didn't help you with your future. My 8 year old writes better than this.

I don't even think it's text speak. I don't know WHAT it is.

What you feel for your teacher is not love.

If you keep this up and all your friends keep teasing you about it
I can just about bet there will be viscous rumors started about this teacher.

They don't have to be true for her to be in trouble. One parent or another teacher can put doubt into someone else s's mind and she'll be in the School officials office being asked about you.

Do you really think you stand a chance with her? You don't. Has she ever given you any reason to think she cares about you other than just being a student. I think not.

Grow up and forget about her. If you don't you're asking for trouble.

Anybody care to jump in about how/why the writing style and spelling have changed?

Is there a possibility this is a troll, looking for attention?

Anybody care to jump in about how/why the writing style and spelling have changed?

Is there a possibility this is a troll, looking for attention?

I think he has a friend who paid more attention in English class.

The gibberesh sounds like something from the 14th Century Pygmey Castrations. The omygoombawahhella

Anybody care to jump in about how/why the writing style and spelling have changed?

Is there a possibility this is a troll, looking for attention?

I'm thinking troll, but the fact that she takes months off is a bit odd.

The fact is, this thread was dead since January, than the OP comes back just to tell us off. She's either a troll, or not the brightest bulb in the tree. I'd guess a bit of both.

The brightest bulb in the tree? The sharpest knife in the drawer, that I get.

Bulbs in trees? Gotcha' (or at least I hope I do or I'll NEVER live this down).

I'm thinking troll, but the fact that she takes months off is a bit odd.

The fact is, this thread was dead since January, than the OP comes back just to tell us off. She's either a troll, or not the brightest bulb in the tree. I'd guess a bit of both.

He or she probably failed English so he could redo it again. He may be a she or both. He doesn't do well so he uses his special language and the she (WHO is the smartest) uses pretty good English. Viola'

I just read this entire thread, and believe me, it was hard and confusing. I really believe that there is something wrong with this child. Possibly abuse, I could be wrong.

The fact that the original discussion was back in January, and now several months later, he/she picked up where it was left off leads me to believe that she/he is in need of attention.

My heart goes out to this child. I strongly suggest that he/she gets the proper help.

That's all I have to say about that.

The brightest bulb in the tree? The sharpest knife in the drawer, that I get.

Bulbs in trees? Gotcha' (or at least I hope I do or I'll NEVER live this down).

LOL! It's more easily understood at Christmas time. Bulbs on trees, evergreens. She's not the brightest one. She's definitely not the star on top. :p

LOL! It's more easily understood at Christmas time. Bulbs on trees, evergreens. She's not the brightest one. She's definitely not the star on top. :p


Not even in the tree... :rolleyes:

It is not illegal to have these feelings but she will lose her teaching credentials and job, and go to jail if she acts on any feelings between you. Also, I don't think anyone questions the intensity of your feelings or their validity. I and others though, do question an adult teacher inappropriately encouraging such feelings from a student who is a minor and 16. You also say this teacher is like a mother to you - the confusion of maternal feelings and romantic love demonstrates that you are blurring some lines with how you are percieving this relationship, or how it's playing out between the two of you. We don't date our mothers or have crushes on them but we can certainly feel passionately about family.

I think your relationship with her is a bit too personal, and would recommend you to not see her outside of school and only relate to her on a basis of teacher and student. When you graduate from school and you are also 18, you might be able to have a relationship with one another but it would still cause her considerable problems with her career and current job because everyone would know you had been her student.

Am I also to understand both you and the teacher are females? Part of your intensity of feelings for her might be because when you are coming to grips with different sexual preferences than the masses, and you find someone with whom you can be yourself and who does not judge you for it, it can make you feel more love and acceptance for yourself. It can cause you to really just love being who you are so much more than usual, and to love being with the person because they make you feel that way about yourself. But there are many people your own age who will also connect with you in this way - it just takes time to find them.

IN the meantime, telling your friends about all this love for your teacher could be enough to get her fired, and spending time outside of school with her could get her fired, and going any further such as with romantic contact or communications between the two of you could get her jailed. All around, this is not a healthy relationship for you - any more than living on chocolate cake might be really appealing but would be really, really bad for you.