Carol82
Dec 30, 2009, 10:41 PM
Hello all,
This might sounds like a silly question but I need help to make sure I don't make a huge mistake.
I am getting a divorce from my husband. Unfortunately, we have had a horrible relationship for the longest time so there is really not much left for us to work on.
I started liking a coworker of mine but when we were talking casually it came up that I am married. Since I was married then I did not want to admit to my coworker how much I really liked him. It would have sounded horrible. Even though I had trouble with my husband, I would not have done anything wrong as long as we were married. I have an "always faithful syndrome" even though my husband did not deserve this from me...
Now that I am getting a divorce I would like to let my coworker know that "I am single and I like him" without sounding either desperate or slutty. I am not a brave person when it comes to that. Also, I would have never taken the first step well... first. But he doesn't know that I am getting divorced so he wouldn't have & couldn't have done the first step. I have to let him know somehow in a subtle way so he could do it.
I can't just bring it up that I am divorced. It would sound kind of suspicious and not subtle. Especially since we don't talk about relationships. I can't just tell him how I feel for two reasons 1.) what IF he doesn't feel the same - although I think he might 2.) he could think I'm coming on strong. So I need to let him know that I am single so he could do something if he wanted to.
I need a nice, sublte, lady like way to tell him that he could ask me out:). How can I bring it up? What do I say? Gosh this is so hard. I just don't want to be emberrased.
By the way for those who think I am moving fast after a marriage:
I am not on a rebound. My husband and I have no married life for so long that I can't even recall it exactly. This means we were never intimate and fought a lot. He never even kissed me on my lips during that time... so trust me I am not on a rebound and I do not go after the first guy I see either. I truly like this person and I feel like I am losing him the longer I wait
Thank you!
This might sounds like a silly question but I need help to make sure I don't make a huge mistake.
I am getting a divorce from my husband. Unfortunately, we have had a horrible relationship for the longest time so there is really not much left for us to work on.
I started liking a coworker of mine but when we were talking casually it came up that I am married. Since I was married then I did not want to admit to my coworker how much I really liked him. It would have sounded horrible. Even though I had trouble with my husband, I would not have done anything wrong as long as we were married. I have an "always faithful syndrome" even though my husband did not deserve this from me...
Now that I am getting a divorce I would like to let my coworker know that "I am single and I like him" without sounding either desperate or slutty. I am not a brave person when it comes to that. Also, I would have never taken the first step well... first. But he doesn't know that I am getting divorced so he wouldn't have & couldn't have done the first step. I have to let him know somehow in a subtle way so he could do it.
I can't just bring it up that I am divorced. It would sound kind of suspicious and not subtle. Especially since we don't talk about relationships. I can't just tell him how I feel for two reasons 1.) what IF he doesn't feel the same - although I think he might 2.) he could think I'm coming on strong. So I need to let him know that I am single so he could do something if he wanted to.
I need a nice, sublte, lady like way to tell him that he could ask me out:). How can I bring it up? What do I say? Gosh this is so hard. I just don't want to be emberrased.
By the way for those who think I am moving fast after a marriage:
I am not on a rebound. My husband and I have no married life for so long that I can't even recall it exactly. This means we were never intimate and fought a lot. He never even kissed me on my lips during that time... so trust me I am not on a rebound and I do not go after the first guy I see either. I truly like this person and I feel like I am losing him the longer I wait
Thank you!