Hi:

My wife has a married girlfriend of hers and they have been spending a lot of time together. There is nothing wrong with that but her girlfriend will tell me when I pick up the phone how she appreciates me letting her hang out with my wifie when "I'm not around". She's said that to me repeatedly and always says how great looking my wife is. The two of them were talking about sex toys and her friend wants a vibrator and wants me to get it for her without telling her husband. Also, she had breast implants and has asked my wife to see and touch them over 10x in the last couple of months.

Normally I would not even worry about this, but it's not the behavior I'm used to with this GF of my wife's.

Any thoughts? Am I losing it?

Thanks,

Mr. Husband

You haven't spent any time around "the girls" when they are among "locker room" friends have you... they are worse than guys in some ways.

And yeah I've seen women with boob jobs do exactly that. Sure not all do but certainly some ARE that proud of them.

Personally I'm not in the bigger is better crowd if you have to cheat at it. Unless there is real issues that aren't size related then implants are fine... otherwise small and real is bigger than big and fake. Now real and big is great, key being "real".

Not a lot talk like that around guys... but a few will if they really like you and I've been around them when they did.

Why do you have two posts saying essentually the same thing only with one being a man and the other a woman.

Exactly how old are you?

Why do you have two posts saying essentually the same thing only with one being a man and the other a woman.

Exactly how old are you?

It's my first time on this site. I'm between 35-40. Was not sure how to post the questions. As a single question or two separate. So I chose the 2 separate.

Thanks for your first response. :)

So what you're saying is that it's normal for women to show off their breasts to other women and I should not worry?

It's my first time on this site. I'm between 35-40. Was not sure how to post the questions. As a single question or two separate. So I chose the 2 separate.

Thanks for your first response. :)

So what you're saying is that it's normal for women to show off their breasts to other women and I should not worry?
I've known two women with boob jobs that liked to show them off to women AND men in the office. They saw no sexual innuendo in it. But its easy to understand otherwise... trust me that's MY first thought if a woman jams cleavage in my face and asks me to touch etc... if I didn't know them well enough to know differently.

They will talk and joke among themselves about sex toys but only not with other men around in most cases. They are different then men in that respect. We get into the "Mr. Macho" thing and a lot of stuff is off limits and women among themselves in the same situation think and act totally different.

Point in note... would YOU ever talk about anything involving your butt that doesn't involve pinching one off or farting to a guy friend?

A lot of women find it fun to play-flirt with other women. It's harmless and makes both parties feel good. The woman being flirted with gets the warm rush of being complimented, while the one doing the flirting gets to make her friend feel good. Think of it as stretching their flirting muscles to keep them in shape for situations where a prospective partner is involved.

Women together, with no men around, act a lot differently than most men realize. Women can get into graphic conversations about sex, going into detail about their experiences and fantasies. They may even be more graphic than men, because they will tell each other all the embarrassing things that men tend to keep to themselves. They will talk about toys and past partners and masturbation and what's gone wrong and what they wish they could do and positions and techniques they've heard about and any number of other things.

Many women who get breast implants do so to show them off. For the first year or two, they are very proud of them. It is not at all uncommon to see a woman with new implants lifting her shirt or inviting people to feel them. It doesn't mean they're hitting on the other person. It's like showing off a new piece of jewelry or shoes.

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I''m a woman and I can tell you that it's extremely common for women to talk about their sex lives, their sex toys and their bodies.

Guys bond with each other by participating in activities, women bond with each other by talking about themselves and their lives.

Women usually talk about their sex lives in more detail than guys (at least in my experience) and are more tactile with each other than guys tend to be. When a female friend has something done to her body - as her friend you want to see what it looks and feels like.

As an example, a friend of mine had a mastectomy and then a reconstruction - when it was healed she showed all her (good) friends, and we were all fascinated and interested to see what it looked like.

Heck... I'm one of the few guys I know that has had more than a few women just spill their guts to me. And yeah... what hheath541 and Gemini54 said is absolutely true... I was shocked the first time but I got over it quick. I learned that women ARE fully capable of talking about literally anything IN THE RIGHT SITUATION, unlike most guys. Yeah guys lockerroom talk is tame compaired to women's lockerroom talk. Yeah I've been around both.

And Oh yeah... they can and do get really graphic among themselves and sometimes the select guy. The average guy is downright Prudish in the same situation, usually due to the Mr. Macho thing and what it is perceived to mean.

I'm one of those people that doesn't put up a false front... I'm an "It is what it is" sort of person. And its pretty much why I've even been privy in those cases. I don't either use or gossip to others what I hear.

If you're really wondering if the relationship goes beyond 'bff' kind of thing, why don't you just ask her? A LOT of women are a little curious. If you have a friend close enough to share that with and she is also curious, that would be the natural outlet to explore. I'm a woman and though the previous posters are totally right about it being common for women to say 'hey check these out, what do you think?' I think its kind of strange the things she says to YOU about her. Maybe they are testing the waters to see how you would feel about it. Ask her...

Thanks everyone this helps :)