I have been in complete no contact for over 4 months with my ex girlfriend, she called me a couple of times but I never answered.Yesterday I saw a picture of her and all my feelings started rushing back and today I was hanging out with my friends and one of my friends was hanging out with his girlfriend having fun and that made it even worse. I really want to talk to her.Do you think that is a good idea?

If you miss your ex that bad and think it might be worth another shot, then my advice to you would be to give her a call. You could say that you are returning her call and go from there. Ask how she's been but let her do most of the talking. Don't act like you've been missing her, act like you've been very busy with your life since you and her broke up, and be happy. Don't talk about the relationship you and her once had unless she brings it up first. And do not ask to get together, let her make the first move. Keep the conversation as light as possible, and calmly say goodbye when the conversation is over. Take things slowly, and let her come to you. Good luck.

You should think hard why you want to call her and why you broke up in the first place. Wait another month and see if you feel the same way. Feelings change all the time.
Is it because it is "her" or is it because you crave companionship and just want fun ?

I'd say wait. Wait a month. Examine your feelings when they arise and see how strong they are each time they come up.
Are they getting stronger or weaker ?

Also if you do contact her now and not later, sabrewolfe's advice is very sound.

Hope this helps for now.
.Jay

Thanks for the help guys and J. Sparks my feelings for her were always strong its just the past 2 days it got really intense

Though I can understand that you had a minor setback seeing her picture,by breaking your NC you run the risk of a major setback.
Stay NC I think once you get over the down of having seen her picture, you'll be glad you did.
Take care.

Don't call her.

It is inevitable that at some point after a breakup, unless you live in a cave in the Arctic, you will either run into her, see her picture, hear someone talk about her, or as you said, see a happy couple and remember her that way.

How you handle these feelings is up to you. You could act on them, and find yourself sliding back in time, re-living the past, and be under the illusion that the relationship could be revived, and things will be good again.

Or, you could recognize that no matter how much 'no contact' you do, that life goes on, and reminders will happen out of the blue, at any time, during any part of your life. Even years from now.

You are already over the worst of the breakup. Do you really want to take a chance on contacting her?

Sometimes it is just better to leave the past in the past. Recognize that you've had a 'moment', and carry on.

mike231 - You don't get over someone you loved quickly. Healing takes time. There will be things that spark memories that occur from time to time, but it will get easier. Stay No Contact!

Mike, no matter how long its been, even decades, exes always haunt us from time to time. That doesn't mean call them, as the feeling will pass once you get focused on something else, so don't act on those feelings, and don't dwell to long on them either.

Just let them pass like they are supposed to. Don't call her. Events have just stirred up old memories, and feelings. I don't think your over her, is the problem.