View Full Version : Should you meet people off the internet?
HygHty
Dec 29, 2009, 07:21 PM
I met my best friend 6 years ago playing Yahoo pool. We talk almost everyday and nobody else gets me the way he does. The problem is that he lives in Saskatchewan and I'm from the east coast in the US. We've talked on the phone tons and even talked to each others friends for a couple years now. We mail birthday and christmas gifts. He brightens up my day. We both want to meet but can't agree how. He wants to pick a city halfway for both of us and have a mini vacation to get to know each other in person. Even after 6 years I'm nervous we won't live up to each other expectations. Should I risk the amazing internet friend I've found to try a relationship?? :confused:
friend4u178
Dec 29, 2009, 07:41 PM
If your planning to meet this person for the first time I wouldn't be doing it halfway in an anonymous location , it should be somewhere public and make sure you let people know where you are.
Not trying to be the prophet of doom I just feel it's safer that way initially.
Good Luck!
rosemcs
Dec 29, 2009, 07:46 PM
The protocol for a successful romantic relationship on the internet is to meet the person first without being in too much contact before seeing if you have chemistry. Otherwise, it would usually be a waste of time if the other person did not meet your expectations. Since you have had such a good relationship for so long, you would have to go in with NO expectations at all. Because you are on such a high with this buddy, there really is only one way to go and that is down.
There are tons of people that meet and get married on the internet, but it can also be a complete waste of time to spend your energy on a dream. You could give it a try, knowing that once you meet, your relationship will no longer be as it was for good or bad.
If you ever liked this person, though, would long distance be even realistic for you?
KISS
Dec 29, 2009, 07:48 PM
I personally know a friend that married a Thai girl from an online relationship in the US. Yes, it can happen. They were engaged after the first physical visit. Married on the second in her country. She hasn't been to the US yet.
Meet half way. Separate rooms. Have a mini vacation.
A cruise is another way because there are lots of planned activities, however you may have to book a room together.
sabrewolfe
Dec 29, 2009, 08:01 PM
Meet as friends and see where it goes from there.
Fr_Chuck
Dec 29, 2009, 08:04 PM
I meet "friends" all the time, a date or relatoinship is different. There are several experts on this site I have meet before, And I even post when I am going to be at various locatoins around the county if people wish to come meet me.
If you are thinking of this as a "date" always meet at a public place.