My nan died in August 2009 and to date, her ashes still sit in the chapel of rest.

I want to collect them and have her ashes buried with her son(my father) which is what I know she would have wanted.

The funeral was paid via a insurance policy under the instruction of her daughter in law.

None of the family will talk to me..

The ashes just sit there in a shop and I want to know how I can get hold of them legally?

Have you contacted the chapel and asked them how to proceed since I'm sure they'd like to have your grandma rest elsewhere as well.