I am 19 years old and I am not completely sure what I want to do with my life. All my friends are in college or university and have everything planned out. I am a very shy and anxious person but I have a lot of dreams and things I want to do in my life. I was always a nervous person in school so I am afraid of taking something that does not suit me. I try so hard to get out of my shell but nothing seems to work and I have had experiences in my life which make me feel like I am not good enough or can't succeed in things. I always wanted to try acting but my anxiety and fears of failing always get in my way. I also love fashion, and makeup and I consider myself creative but I don't know where to start with it. I also really like Hockey and having a career in sports always interested me too and travelling also a dream of mine. I just need help with how to get started, how to get over my anxiety, and any career suggestions please. I really want to start my life and be proud of myself. Sorry for all of the questions...

Well if you are into fashion, try looking into taking a course on it in College?

Hi, Dreamer19!

A person can't win unless they play the game.

Is there a reason that you're not attending a college or university, please?

Thanks!

Why not think of becoming an arts major ? You could start with photography and digital enhancing photos. From there you can lear graphic arts and also with photography you can take fashion photos or sports oriented ones. From there who knows the sky is the limit. For now having a major goal and then taking steps to reach it is the key. Don't try to do everything all at once. If you do what your passion and love is then you never have to work. Your passion shows through and soon enough your work comes to you.

If your creative, arts major is a great option. But what about your school grades? Sometimes those indicate exactly what your good at. So try to deliberate it according to them. It will then be easier for you to decide. And if I may tell you... I am very anxious and I was once shy like you but I proved wrong this claim that shy or anxious people don't do much in life. Sometimes--- controlled--anxiety help you become even more creative so don't you let it hold you back.

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You got to risk some to win some.
You should definitely consider going to school. It has a social function in addition to an economic function. You need to meet more people your age who share similar interests as you. Maybe you will meet someone who also wants to travel and you will be able to connect with that person. Do not be afraid to branch out.

You should consult a therapist about the anxiety. Schools have student services departments where people can help you, or set you up with someone who can.

Nothing will happen unless you wake up in the morning and try. You need to go out and try. The worst that can happen is that you will learn more about yourself.
Fear of failure is worse than failure itself.