Hi all,
Ive been seeing this girl for about a month. We both made the mistake of moving too fast into things, for example, going out on dates twice a week. She broke up with her ex 2 weeks after we started going out, even though I knew her while she was seeing her ex. By the third week of us going out, she wanted to come back to my place. We were really hitting it off, she gave me some clues to be her girlfriend, like saying I feel safe with you and I never met someone like you before that treated me right and so on. I told her the same, and ask her to be my girlfriend. She then told me that she's not seeing anyone else except me, but its still too soon. She also told me that she's has told people that she's seeing someone, (me) but were not boyfriend/ girlfriend. (I know, I moved too quick on that one). The night went on in a good way, still very affectionate. We both started to drink and both got drunk, and things unravaled fast, (enough said). After that day we both talk about how we should never get drunk and let things unravel like they did, we laugh about it. Anyhow we both still talk and show affection to each other, but it wasn't the same before she came over that one night. We still go on dates and have a good time, but it seems like we took a big step backwards, which I'm totally fine with, I've been giving her space. What I'm unsure about is, to me she's hiding something, but won't tell me straight out. Im hoping by asking her to be my girlfriend or (enough said), didn't wreck anything, but if it did, I want to be able to fix it. She still wants to see me, but it seems like she is holding back or something. What is your guys/gals opinoin?

She's just come out of a relationship and needs to get over that. Too much too soon and you need to step back,she doesn't want a boyfriend right now.
Getting drunk and amorous is mostly a bad idea.
Sorry guy-dont try to be her rebound.

Ok, so me giver her space and taking a step back is OK. Thanks for the advice

She jumped into a relationship way too soon. She sounds too me like she might be still involved with the so called ex boyfriend. It seems like its all pointing to that when you feel she is holding something back. I would take a step back for now.

Your right, you moved to fast ,and went to far, and neither of you knows to back up. You just keep going forward, and yes, she still thinks about the ex, and they may be talking.

Worse yet, your definitely a rebound for a female that 1) can't be alone, and b) maybe using you, and c) didn't have the common sense to heal, and give herself time. d) more than likely is talking to the ex.

Back up, stop getting drunk, and believing everything she is telling you. Pay attention, I really think you need too.