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wicked215
Dec 20, 2009, 06:06 PM
Right,
I am completely and utterly lost on what to do about about something that has confused me so much over the past months, but especially the last couple of weeks.

Me and best friend (we are both male teens) are so close to each other. I've never been closer to anyone in my life before.

By close, I mean very close. The sort of closness you would find in a relationship. We've been like this for a year or so now.

Just under 2 weeks ago, I made the hardest decision in my life, and told him I was bi. I was so so worried he would hate me and never speak to me.

However, quite the opposite has happened. He has become increasingly closer to me... so this has made me ponder the fact that he could be bi? Because the stuff we do, isn't really what completely hetro guys do.

But I don't know how to bring the issue up with him. Because it's quite confusing.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 20, 2009, 06:08 PM
Ok, what it is you are doing, that hetro guys don't do ?

And if you are so close, have you thought about asking him

And then what age are you, since at certain ages you should not be "sex anything"

wicked215
Dec 20, 2009, 06:12 PM
I'm 16, and haven't done anything sexual with him.

What I mean by non hetro stuff is things such as holding hands hugging very closely, sharing the same bed etc.

bidingmytime
Dec 20, 2009, 09:16 PM
Hmm... I think it sounds like he might be a bi, or at least curious. Cause you are right, hetro guys don't do that kind of stuff.

In this situation I would either wait till the right moment and then talk to him about it or I would just not say anything and keep things the way they are since you seem to be happy.

wicked215
Dec 21, 2009, 03:11 AM
Yes, you would be 100% right about me being happy. It really isn't making me upset, it's just abit confusing.

The advice is much appreciated.

redhed35
Dec 21, 2009, 06:08 AM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/me-best-friend-411107.html

are you 16 or 18,makes a big difference.

my advice,how much do you value the friendship? You need to weigh up if its worth losing a friendship over.

bidingmytime
Dec 21, 2009, 09:36 PM
This could be one of those "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" cases. Cause you are only 16, and really, it's time to enjoy life and not time for anything serious.

AManWithNoName
Dec 23, 2009, 02:53 AM
I've known my best friend since 1st grade, we're so close it makes his girlfriend, and all my ex's jealous, so don't be ashamed about the whole, well not wanting to sound like a jerk, broke back mountainish relationship between you and your best friend, but do you really want to ruin being bestfriends with by going a step beyond, sharing beds and holding hands is kind of weird, and a little beyond the normal best friend stuff, but hey who am I to judge, just don't, you know, make out or anything unless you want to be more than friends, or more than best friends, have you ever had a girl friend?