Me and my girlfriend were in a great relationship and nothing really seemed wrong. One day we got in a fight, but after about an hour or 2 everything was settled and we loved each other again.

After that I was kind of hurt and wanted to make sure I was doing everything right for her. So when I would hang out with her I would always think she was mad at me for little things and we would end up fighting about it later. We probably got in like 3 or 4 little fights and it was always settled and everything was fine.

One day she called me and was talking about breaking up because of fighting too much. We talked for like 2 hours on the phone and we were both crying and eventually she said we were going to make it work.

The next day I saw her she told me straight up we should just be friends, and I felt sad. We always had a great friendship before that and she didn't want to keep fighting obviously. The only weird thing was that we still both really like each other and were still attracted to each other.

So the next day I went to her house and we talked about "us" for a long time. She got a lot of things out and so did I and before I left she hugged me and said "we're going to figure this all out"

The next day she texted me and just said we are better as friends period. I thought this was weird because I thought we were on track to becoming a couple again. Even her mom wanted her to get back with me...

So since then I've had a hard time dealing with it and I've still told her I really like her. Lately she has almost never replied to my texts and its kind of annoying. Then she invited me over (as friends) but 5 minutes after said never mind you can't come over.

I think she might be trying to get revenge or something because one time I had plans with her but sort of bailed and she told me there was like a week where I never texted her.

Also when I finally did come over, it was with 2 other guy friends. When we left she hugged both of them but not me.

I still really like her and she said she would always have feelings for me but I don't get what I have to do to get her back. Does she still like me? What am I doing wrong?

For whatever reasons her feelings have changed and now she hardly ever responds to your texts,so you need to accept that this is over.
The one thing you can do you should be doing for you-leave her alone and move on with your own life doing your own thing.
Stop texting her,go no contact-read the stickies at the top of the relationship page for more advice.

Yep, time to do NC - period. She is playing mind games with you. People who love you don't do that. Removing yourself from the equation will stop the hurt on your end (even though it will be hard at first). You'll come out of this a stronger person. Time to hit the gym and do stuff that you did before you two were together.

I don't think so. She told me she loved me and that we both needed time so does she just need more time before we get back together or what?

When they need space there is never a guarantee they will get back together with you, as most times that's a nice way to say its over. Leave her alone, and give her what she asks for, because you putting any kind of pressure on her, even to get answers, will push her further away.

Take the hint that it is over, because all the excuses she has given, and all the talks (and crying) you have had, have not gotten you back together, so just go about your own business, and leave her alone for now.

Imissher,

I'm speaking from experience here. My ex's progression went from:
1.) We're done forever
2.) Let's just be friends
3.) Friends with benefits - us basically hanging out like we were still together
4.) Her saying maybe we just need more time
5.) Her taking the initiative and acting like my girlfriend again
6.) Two days later, saying that we can't be together and can't even be friends and that I need to let her go, and that I've been manipulating her by just treating her the same great way I did when we were together.

If you want to save yourself some heartache and confusion, I strongly advise you to go NC for yourself. Who knows, maybe in time she will realize what she has lost. But anything you do right now (good or bad) is just going to push her further away or come off as desperate or needy on your behalf. She says that she needs time... people who love each other work stuff out together. She says she loves you, but then invites you over and goes out of her way to hug two other guys and NOT you. It's time to cut the baloney and stop talking to her.

Well you all told me it was over and I should never talk to her... I'm glad I didn't take that advice cause I knew it was different than normal.

I talked to her and now we're good friends right now. It's better than letting her go forever. And if we ever did get back together this would be the first step.

So why did you ask for advice in the first place then if you were just going to ignore it and follow your original intentions? We are not trying to rain on your parade, just trying to give you a non-compromised, unbiased opinion from what you've said regarding your situation.

You may think that your situation is unique and different from everybody else, but rest assured that it certainly doesn't deviate too far from the norm. Obviously I don't know her or you, but I can read the signals.

First of all, being good friends with her is not a way to "win her back."

"the next day she texted me and just said we are better as friends period. i thought this was weird because i thought we were on track to becoming a couple again. even her mom wanted her to get back with me..."

It is clear that you want to be more than friends, while she does not. This is going to lead you down the road of false hope and only waste a lot of your time, while causing a lot of frustration at the same time. Being a friend is not going to make her want you romantically again. If anything, her thoughts of you as a romantic interest are going be replaced with those of you as the emotional tampon who will be there at her ever beckoning call. You're not a challenge for her, she knows that by snapping her fingers you'll be there in a heartbeat. The second that she is ready to move on to her next guy, you will be history, and you will be in a world of hurt.

What I learned from my break up is when somebody thinks that their life is worse off with you in it, at least have the balls to disappear and let them lie in the bed they made. Maybe they'll miss you and come back, maybe not.

I wish you the best, and hope you find that special person for yourself. From what I've read though this girl is NOT that person, and she is simply stringing you along as a fallback in case she doesn't find anything better. It's my $0.02, so take it as you will.

It may seem like everyone here was wrong but just wait, things will go bad again and since you refuse to let her go the pain will just get worse, continue to cling to the hope that you 2 can get back together and you are going to be in for one hell f a ride and you won't like where it stops