Hello everybody,

My mom-in-law love on my kid is untolerable.She started torturing me as soon as I gave birth to my kid. She blamed me that I could'nt produce enough milk and torturing me to switch to bottle milk so that she can feed to her grand son. At that peroid her harassment is untolerable, she asked me to prove that I can produce enough milk, she used to do big face when ever I feed to my son. Finallu, that period some how I handled amd I gave breast milk to my baby.

Next, when my son started speeking words, she used get irritated when my son says "amma"

Next, now my son is 3 year old now she is saying to my son, if he does something mischevoius "amma will come and hit you". I could'nt tolerate all this

Not only this,she wants to do every thing to my son, she only gets him from school,she wants take him to park , if give chance she wants to put my son at her place and raise him . Now, I am in that stae that if she carries my son also I can't see and tolerate,

Please give me suggestion, Thanks in advance

What does your husband say about it? Is she saying things to your son to try and turn him against you? Can you tell her that YOU are doing whatever with him today so it won't be necessary for her to get him or take him anywhere? You need to find a way to stand up for yourself or get your husband to have a talk with her.

So don't take your son over to the MIL and tell her that until she behaves she does not see him

Its up to you to make the rules, and be clear about them, and let her know what is acceptable to you, and what is not.

As a grandparent, its not unusual to always have an opinion about the grandkids though, as we have raised kids before, and they turned out okay, I mean your MIL raised your husband, and you love him right? She could be that bad, so work together, and stop butting heads with an older, more experienced woman.

She sounds like a bully, and your husband is probably afraid of her, or something would have been said and/or done by now to curb her behaviour.

This is YOUR child! YOU are in control here, not her.

When she shows up unnanounced, tell her politely that you have plans, and please call next time. Keep it simple, but be strong.

If she wants to call and ASK if its okay for her to take your child to the park, if it is convenient for you, let her do it, but give her a time when you expect your child home.

You do not have to be a victim here. Nobody can walk all over you, unless you let them.

Stick up for yourself, and if she sees you as an equal, she will likely back off, because she will not resist seeing her grandchild.