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Marty33
Dec 15, 2009, 06:53 AM
All right, so here is the deal. I have known this girl for about two months (she was actually the one who introduced herself to me). Since then we became at least a very good friends, we spend lot of time together, we chat all the time on ICQ, we went to see a movie together (she chose me over her boyfriend!), we lead these sms conversations, we even kiss every time we greet or say goodbye to each other (on lips, not cheeks)... She touches me and stuff... Yesterday while at pub with friends, she told me that the bartender looks good and I told her (out of fun) that she makes me jealous, on which she answered that she'll whisper something to me and she started licking and kissing my ear :D She was sober.

Now normally I would have gone for it already, but she has a boyfriend. Last week there was some crisis and they almost broke up, but she said she cried a lot and that she couldn't do it.

So anyway, yesterday when I walked her home from the pub, I brought the theme of her boyfriend up, asking how things are, and she said neutral. Now I know that doesn't sound bad at all, but it's not a flawless victory as well. Then we were talking about lots of things and I wanted to say to her that I like her, but I didn't, for it seemed inappropriate after what we talked about. So we kissed, said goodbye and she left.

I'd like to know what you guys think. Do you think I should go for it, or wait, or what? I mean, I am pretty sure she knows I like her (I never really hid it) and I do not think she considers me just a mere friend (but with girls, one can never be sure). I know I have to tell her. I just don't know wheter I should tell her rather sooner or wait for a convenient moment to strike... And yes, I know that it is unfair to her boyfriend and no, I wouldn't want to be in his place, but I really do like this girl. Thanks

J_9
Dec 15, 2009, 07:05 AM
I think you need to leave this girl alone. She is toxic. She's already cheating on her boyfriend with you. No, you don't have to have intercourse to cheat.

If she's going to do this to her boyfriend, don't you think she'll do it to you too?

She's got a boyfriend... she's off limits.

amicon
Dec 15, 2009, 07:15 AM
She's playing you and you should protect your heart and walk away.

I wish
Dec 15, 2009, 07:25 AM
Sounds like she's cheating (especially emotionally) on her boyfriend.

Is that the type of girl you want?

How would you feel if she was your girlfriend and treated other guys the way she's treating you?

talaniman
Dec 15, 2009, 10:06 AM
Leave the two timing >(*******)< alone. Are you crazy? Or do you like being played?

friend4u178
Dec 15, 2009, 04:00 PM
So you want to be with a girl who can't be trusted and is happy to cheat on her Boyfriend , your mad!!

Leave her alone to cheat on her current BF.

paxe
Dec 15, 2009, 04:46 PM
We only give our honest opinion here and what we feel is right from our own experience. You should probably leave her as if she liked you really she would have gone for you. You are just something on the side for her and it doesn't seem that it's going to change.

jmjoseph
Dec 15, 2009, 05:01 PM
Her lips go from her boyfriends lips( amongst other places) to yours.

When you say "she touches me and stuff" what does that mean?

And when you say " go for it", are you talking about having sex with her?

Or are you talking about a relationship?

Bottom line is that she is with someone else, you should respect that.

Plus, she's playing you. She's not going to leave that guy for you.

Gemini54
Dec 15, 2009, 05:26 PM
We have a wonderful term, in Australia, for what this girl is doing to you.

It's called "cock teasing". Yep. And you're falling for it, hook, line and sinker.

Leave her alone. Look at the pattern...

She introduces herself to you
Lets you kiss and touch her
Comments on the spunky barman
Acts as if she's on the point of breaking up with her BF...

It's not your heart she's calling to, it's the hungry beast in your pants, and she knows exactly how to get it excited.