I've been hurt so many times

Hello da_buisness,

We all have been hurt at some time or another. Some more than others. The question I have for you is, why do you think you keep getting hurt? It might be the choice of women/men... It could very well be a pattern that you need to break. Those are questions you need to ask yourself..

It's good to recognize that culture puts a lot of pressure on us to find love... If we don't, we could be called unpopular, or unsuccessful. The truth is, having a boyfriend or girlfriend does not equal love. Most people do not find their future spouse until college or well after. If you are dating around in high school, just for the experience, there is a good chance you will not find "the one," (although some do.) If you're in high school and have not found "love" yet, don't worry! Only a small amount of high school romances end in marriage. If you're waiting for your true love, it will more than likely take some time and patience. Love takes a lot of work, commitment, and time. Why not find love in friendships, instead of in short-lived romances? Your best friends, I'm sure, love you- and if you have friends that are of the opposite sex, you may just find your true love among them... Love takes time. It's going to be all right, all these things have their time. Don't fall for the lie that you NEED a girlfriend or boyfriend.

Focus on recovering from your previous break ups before worrying about a new relationship.

Once you've healed, you will be in a better position to start a new relationship.

Had to spread the love Jamie, but you've had some excellent answers lately.

I wanted to add that love isn't something you can predict, or mark on the calendar. It will hit you like a ton of bricks, or tickle your cheek with a feather.

Being hurt by love, is not something any of us can avoid. Even in long term relationships, hurting by the actions of those you love is inevitable. I have downright hated my husband for some of the boners he's pulled over the years.

But, for your own piece of mind, try to reflect on why this keeps happening to you; being hurt so many times. Are you drawn to the same type of person? Are certain characteristics common? Do you tend to pass by those that are not visually appealing, or appear shy or introverted?

Have you ever considered writing out your love experiences. A chapter for each one. Traits, characteristics, the nature of the relationship, what was good, what wasn't, what ended it.

See if there aren't things you are missing in understanding the similarities between each one. It might be an eye opener, and you may just learn to broaden your horizons.

Much of what we see we don't tend to really critique; drawn to certain types of people like a moth to flame, without any thought to why that happens.

I do think love will find a way, it usually always does. But a little self-reflection and a bit of homework, might just help you along that path.