creation1
Dec 7, 2009, 08:49 AM
I have a 16yr old son who is 90% fab person, 10% = lying thief. For 10yrs. Have been to counselors to help me and my son to deal with the issue.
Got to stage 14yrs police & Juvinille Justice involved. Sent him to boarding school instead of the detention centre option. I've tried to be there for him to the best of my ability but the lying and stealing continued. He's been with his dad for the last year over more stealing and lying issues.
I've try to keep open communication. Now he's so good at manipulating the truth, he doesn't blatenly lie, He just spends his time picking out the portions of truth.
I'm at my wits end with him. Had enough. Told him "that's it, give me a call when your ready to have an open honest respectful relationship with me" In the hope that he'd take stock and WANT to Share this kind of relationship with me instead of it always being so hard, dealing with the lack of truth.
Well this seems to of backfired real bad. Now my son hates me, speaks to me like I'm a piece of ____. Tells me he has choices and he will choose what he will and will not say to me or anyone else. And that I need to accept him for who and what he is! (faircall,)
My question or seek for quidance or assistance is, How do I deal with this kind of relationship, with a person who chooses not to be openly honest.
How to have a positive relationship with someone who chooses the dishonest path.
How to love and respect someone who treats you total disrespect.
Anyone else and I would have simply just walked away/ completely out of their life. I don't have time for lying thieves. Haha I say that yet I've spent 10yrs continuously trying to help my own son who puts 90% effort and energy into 10% negetive part of himself.
The other 90%, I used to know as a gorgeous, caring helpful kid.
I so desperately want to tell him where to go... I've sooooo had enough.
Got to stage 14yrs police & Juvinille Justice involved. Sent him to boarding school instead of the detention centre option. I've tried to be there for him to the best of my ability but the lying and stealing continued. He's been with his dad for the last year over more stealing and lying issues.
I've try to keep open communication. Now he's so good at manipulating the truth, he doesn't blatenly lie, He just spends his time picking out the portions of truth.
I'm at my wits end with him. Had enough. Told him "that's it, give me a call when your ready to have an open honest respectful relationship with me" In the hope that he'd take stock and WANT to Share this kind of relationship with me instead of it always being so hard, dealing with the lack of truth.
Well this seems to of backfired real bad. Now my son hates me, speaks to me like I'm a piece of ____. Tells me he has choices and he will choose what he will and will not say to me or anyone else. And that I need to accept him for who and what he is! (faircall,)
My question or seek for quidance or assistance is, How do I deal with this kind of relationship, with a person who chooses not to be openly honest.
How to have a positive relationship with someone who chooses the dishonest path.
How to love and respect someone who treats you total disrespect.
Anyone else and I would have simply just walked away/ completely out of their life. I don't have time for lying thieves. Haha I say that yet I've spent 10yrs continuously trying to help my own son who puts 90% effort and energy into 10% negetive part of himself.
The other 90%, I used to know as a gorgeous, caring helpful kid.
I so desperately want to tell him where to go... I've sooooo had enough.