Hello,
It's been a very long time since I posted on here. To make a long story short me and my ex-girlfriend started talking again back in May and we're supposedly back together. However, I don't see any hope of this going anywhere. I'm stubborn and refuse to call her on a regular basis because she was the one that left me the last time so she is the only one calling. This may be a strange way of looking at it but I feel like she should be doing all the work to make it up to me since she left me for some jerk nearly two years ago. My so-called replacement was married before, was accused by his ex-wife for molesting their now 4-5 year old daughter, and is just everything that I wouldn't caught dead being. I'm not going to kiss her rear end anymore like I have in the past. She's lied about sleeping with him and even lied about talking to him recently. She has yet to delete his phone number from her cell. On the few occasions that we've actually seen each other, she refuses to be intimate, she kisses me like I have AIDS or something dreadful, and she just seems to have no time for me. I'm not naive-I still think she is seeing the bum. We'll talk on the days that I am off from work, she'll tell me when she is off, yet I never hear a peep from her. I feel if she wants me back, she has to make the effort. I'm not going to compete with some slimeball for her affection, especially a child molesting pervert. I'm going to go completely No Contact with her. I've had it with her telling me how much she loves me yet never seems to have time. She expects me to send her flowers and gifts like I did many moons ago but she has yet to give me a reason why I should. I'm about to buy a house and move in the next month or so. Should I change my number and completely let go or is there hope for this? I think the whole thing is an utter joke. She says she wants marriage and kids but her actions indicate otherwise. I was even stupid enough to entertain the idea of paying off her car loan if things got better between us. But I see no progress and I think it is time to walk away. What do you all think?

I didn't even need to read half your post. If you come online asking if there's hope for your "joke" of a relationship and start telling us how you have no hope for it, well, you've just answered your own question. It doesn't sound like you want to make it work. And it sounds like there's some serious trust issues. No sense in staying in a relationship that you don't seem to actually want to be in

I also did not read all of your post. I read the title and I read the end statement. If you think it's time to leave and you believe it is a joke, then there is no hope. You are half of the relationship and you think it is a joke- it will not work out, it is best that you leave.

two things.
1) no trust= no relationship. It's clear you don't trust her. Already, the relationship might as well be over.
2) for future relationships, get rid of the score board. All she did was take, so now she have to give, blah blah blah. Not good for any relationship. You do things because you love each other and want to. Not because it's owed.

Get your new house and go enjoy your life with someone you can trust completely.

Life is too short to be with someone who lies, and could at any moment, mistakedly call you by another name.

It's just not worth it. One day in the near future, you will look back on this and see why.

I wish you luck.

You're right. The relationship is a joke.

Worse still, it's not even a relationship. Why do you bother pretending that there is any hope for this train wreck of a connection?

You actually don't even like this woman very much and are still resentful and trying to make her pay because she ditched you for someone else.

Do yourself a favor and cut all connections - and I agree with justcurious55, get rid of the scorecard in the next relationhsip or you'll end up as toxic as the 'bum' you purport to hate.

While it may be easy for you to let her go and do the no contact thing, emotionally, there is still a tie there.

You may always have some regret, or lingering doubt that it could have worked out. There was at some time, good things between you. It is easy to slip back to that place.

Sometimes loving someone is just not enough to build a life upon. She is, under the cold hard facts, who she is, and not the person you thought she was.

You are a person who was deceived, and cheated on. That it affected you the way it did, is what it is. Some people keep taking partners back over and over and over again, and never figure it out.

I'd say your moral stance if that's the right term, is being true to yourself. And if that means you cannot see a future with her, then so be it.

Let her go, remember the good times, you loved, and you will love again.

Nothing was ever resolved from the breakup-you still repent her behaviour and I'd say time to breakup for good.

Where's the punchline?


This joke is pretty bad, I say end it now and never repeat it.