passmeby
Dec 3, 2009, 02:46 PM
I have a person in my life, who shall remain nameless, that I HAVE to deal with (family)... so it's not like I can just totally walk away from this situation.
I have dealt with it quietly for years, just letting it roll off and prettty much ignoring most of what she says. The gossiping never bothered me until fairly recently when I found out that she has been saying some really damaging and completely untrue things about myself and my daughter. I know that she has said these things to her entire family and friends and God knows who else.
This is tough, because how am I supposed to show my face at any family function, knowing what she has said about us? Not to mention, how do I deal with her personally for having done this to us? And now that I think about it, I really don't know how much else she has said about me and to whom... how embarrassing and infuriating! I just hate gossip and drama.
The lying thing, much of it I can simply brush off. Like if she's telling a story and she lies about something that's no big deal, then, so what, I guess I don't care about that, I don't see it as anything I need to get worked up over even though the behavior itself infuriates me. It's when she lies about important things, or lies about people in a damaging way, is what really bugs me. I had enough after all these years and called her out on it... and now we're in a back-and-forth email feud... guess what, she keeps lying and thinking she can fool me somehow after I cold busted her several times. After busting her by using her own web of written lies against her, she tries to turn it on to me, as if I'm purposely trying to make her out to be a liar. She can take no fault for anything EVER and even when cold busted, can't even admit it. God, this just makes me sick!
What the heck can I do? I HAVE to deal with this person to at least a small degree, there's no escaping that. I've already blatantly pointed out how her behavior sickens me. Yet she still lies in everything she says, and I'm sure she's gossiping about this as well. So what do you do when you're getting nowhere with a person, but you're stuck dealing with them?
I have dealt with it quietly for years, just letting it roll off and prettty much ignoring most of what she says. The gossiping never bothered me until fairly recently when I found out that she has been saying some really damaging and completely untrue things about myself and my daughter. I know that she has said these things to her entire family and friends and God knows who else.
This is tough, because how am I supposed to show my face at any family function, knowing what she has said about us? Not to mention, how do I deal with her personally for having done this to us? And now that I think about it, I really don't know how much else she has said about me and to whom... how embarrassing and infuriating! I just hate gossip and drama.
The lying thing, much of it I can simply brush off. Like if she's telling a story and she lies about something that's no big deal, then, so what, I guess I don't care about that, I don't see it as anything I need to get worked up over even though the behavior itself infuriates me. It's when she lies about important things, or lies about people in a damaging way, is what really bugs me. I had enough after all these years and called her out on it... and now we're in a back-and-forth email feud... guess what, she keeps lying and thinking she can fool me somehow after I cold busted her several times. After busting her by using her own web of written lies against her, she tries to turn it on to me, as if I'm purposely trying to make her out to be a liar. She can take no fault for anything EVER and even when cold busted, can't even admit it. God, this just makes me sick!
What the heck can I do? I HAVE to deal with this person to at least a small degree, there's no escaping that. I've already blatantly pointed out how her behavior sickens me. Yet she still lies in everything she says, and I'm sure she's gossiping about this as well. So what do you do when you're getting nowhere with a person, but you're stuck dealing with them?