I just found out I am pregnant and I really don't know what to do. I am 21 and still in school. I just can not be pregnant. I am not ready for this at all. I also do not think I can have an abortion. I just don't feel right about it. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we know we want to get married someday so I don't know if I can go through with giving my baby up for adoption.

I had no idea I was pregnant and just got back from a normal yearly exam where my doctor told me I was indeed pregnant. She said based on when my last period was I am probably about 5 weeks along. So I did miss my period but I also had surgery a month ago and they said my cycle could be off for the next couple months so that I wouldn't be alarmed. I just need some advice on my options. I seriously am so scared and don't know what to do.

Sorry about all this rambling but I literally found out less than an hour ago and don't have all my thoughts in order yet...

If you have been having sex, yes you indeed can be pregnant, what methods of birth control were you using

I know I am pregnant. I just had my doctor's appointment and he said that I am for sure pregnant. I am asking for advice about what I should do now.

Please, I really need some help/advice/support from someone. I can not handle this alone. Please someone help me out with this.

How about you ask your parents to look after your child for you until you are ready to take responsibility..

My first pregnancy was a surprise and it was before I was married. I was very scared and had horrible morning sickness and couldn't lose my Full-Time job. There is no way I would have an abortion either.

So, now will come a very difficult chapter in your life. The next eight months will require you to be very brave. You may be very sick too... but let's put this whole thing in a bigger perspective.

The pregnancy itself may not be too difficult--after all many women are in the same situation as you. You have plenty of time to decide if you would like to give the baby up for adoption or raise the love yourself.

Seven years later, I have a wonderful son that is the light of my life. He is my best friend and a part of me. Even though the initial impact was a surprise--and many pregnancies are surprises, it is a lifetime of a relationship that you will always have... your own child.

Hopefully, your man will support you and if not, there are still ways to survive without a man. This will test his inner core. The baby is a baby, a sweet little cutie, and may make you tired for a few years, but is a gift.

The most important thing for you is to find support through someone-be it family, friends, a group (maybe a social worker at a hospital will know or a maternity center). Maybe even your school has pregnant women that you can bond with a little.

It IS a heavy responsibility, but you can take it one day at a time... I would love to get a private message from you if you like and we can talk about it more. Your life does not have to be "over". You can still continue school during and after the baby. There are so many ways of getting a degree too now through online learning.

Where there is a will, there is a way.

There are only three options you have.

1. Having and keeping the child.
2. Abortion.
3. Adoption.

Here's the thing. You only found out about this 1 hour ago. Give yourself some time to let this sink in. Sleep on it for a night or two. Talk to your boyfriend because it's his baby too.

When you've had some time to get used to the idea that you're pregnant then look at your options. Talk to a counselor, go to planned parenthood, talk to your doctor. After you have all the info, make your decision.

It's not easy being a parent, but one thing I can tell you, there's never an "ideal" time to get pregnant. If you decide to keep this child I'm sure you can find a way to make it work. You're not a teen, you're an adult.

If you decide to abort then get all the information. Make sure that you're comfortable with this decision. It's not an easy choice. I can tell you that you will feel some remorse, a sense of loss if you go this route. Counseling afterwards is important.

The same goes with adoption.

Whatever you decide, make sure it's what you want, not what someone else wants.

If you need to talk we'll be here.

Good luck.

Thanks for that Altenweg and rosemcs. I know I am an adult but right now I feel like a child. I know that sounds weird but I have not stopped crying since I found out. I just am very overwhelmed and I feel like I have no one to talk to besides online people. I talked with my boyfriend but he says he is not ready for kids and thinks it would be best for me to have an abortion. I know that it is my choice whether I have an abortion but I know that I can't raise a child on my own. He loves me very much and I know that he will stick with me but I don't want him to not love our child. And worse I don't want to not love our child.

The worst part about this is I have always dreamed of being pregnant. I was so excited to get to that part of my life. But I feel it has come too early and now the day that is supposed to be the best and happiest day of my life has turned into the worst and saddest day of my life.

So what does your heart say? Can you go through an abortion? Is adoption an option at this point?

I do know how you feel, sort of. I have two kids. Both of them were planned. Then hubby and I had one drunken night of stupidity and bam, I got pregnant again. I wasn't happy about it at all. I cried, I screamed, I knew that we couldn't afford another child at that time. I was really upset.

I slept on it, got used to the idea, then I became exited about it. Then I was happy about it. Hubby was too.

When I was 3 months pregnant I lost the baby. I was devastated. Even though I know it wasn't logical, I thought that the uncertainty I had in the beginning caused the miscarriage. I felt so much guilt because of that moment of not wanting the baby.

Don't be too quick to decide right now. Give yourself some time. Look at your options. Let reality sink in. This is so fresh right now, for you, for your boyfriend.

Abortion isn't easy. It's something that will be with you forever. Not that it's not an option, because of course it is. It's your choice, and only yours. The thing is, there is a reality to abortion. You don't sound like the type of person that can just go in, get an abortion and walk away from it unscathed. You need to know that this will stay with you. You may not get over that choice.

The thing is, the other two choices will stay with you forever as well.

You need to research this. You need to talk it through. Is there someone that's not involved in this (not your boyfriend) that you can talk to? We can help you, we can listen, but I really think you need to talk to someone that you care about, someone you know, someone you trust, someone you can physically lean on.

For right now, sleep on it. Give yourself some time. The decision doesn't have to be made tomorrow. You have some time to make this choice.

We'll be here.

For now I do have to go to bed so please keep us posted, let us know how you're doing. We tend to worry. ;)

I was there too-and remember those difficult days. I have even further nightmares about not having a man there when I had another child that had heart problems. I had to think about my other children while the baby was in the hospital. I was alone in misery, but I met so many moms that had it worse! I went through that and now my baby is such a joy! Life does not have to be golden to welcome a child into the world. Even if you are married and have kids, there are a myriad of other "things" that can make you feel as if you can not bear the burden of another child.

The most important thing for you RIGHT NOW and in the months ahead is to FOCUS on taking care of your health. The other things will fall into place... it doesn't mean that your relationship will work out, but all other things are now secondary to you being able to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other and go through the day.

It is so important to find other people that have extreme hardship too. There are many around you... feel their pain too so that you can keep going. A time will come when it will not be so hard and you will be a million times stronger.

You have heard these clichés all your life, now it is time to put it into action. There is a baby now waiting for your love and whether this baby gets love from anyone else, ultimately, it is your love he/she is wanting... or to give to another through adoption.

And thank you for allowing us to share in a part of your life in this special time.

I want to keep him or her but I just don't know how I can afford it. I don't have a good job yet and I don't know when I will be able to get a good job with school and all. I just don't know if I can handle all of the responsibility that comes along with a baby. How can I finance it. I want to be responsible and I just feel it would be irresponsible for me to have a child at this time. My parents help me out with money right now and if I have a baby they will not help me anymore. Basically I would have no place to live and no place to go I just don't know how I can do this.

Look in the phone book under Maternity Homes and Abortion Alternatives. These people give time everyday to work in non-profit places to help people like you.. they will have many resources. You would be surprised at how many resources there are for you and how many are willing to help.

There are also adoption agencies willing to pay for all your expenses.

The state can also provide you with Financial Help. It takes a little time to do all the paperwork, but it is possible.

Can you please make one phone call to these places? They are confidential and very helpful. You are not alone in this. I had a very strong feeling to go to this website last night, thinking about a young woman that was in your situation, that needed help. Please make one call that could help you gain some ground.

You can't put up a brick wall yet, because of all the resources that are around. I live in N. CA. What state do you live in?

I want to keep him or her but I just don't know how I can afford it. I don't have a good job yet and I don't know when I will be able to get a good job with school and all. I just don't know if I can handle all of the responsibility that comes along with a baby. How can I finance it. I want to be responsible and I just feel it would be irresponsible for me to have a child at this time. My parents help me out with money right now and if I have a baby they will not help me anymore. Basically I would have no place to live and no place to go I just don't know how I can do this.

Have you even considered adoption yet?

If it's finances that you're worried about then why not have the baby and give that gift to someone else?

There are other options other then abortion.

Sorry I have been on vacation for a few days. But I have thought about adoption, but even if I am pregnant my parents won't help me anymore. The deal has always been that they will continue helping me with finances until I graduate college, or I get married or pregnant.

Plus I plan on marrying my boyfriend someday (after I graduate) and I don't know if myself or him could deal with knowing that we have a child somewhere out there in the world. I know that there is also always open adoption but I have known someone that gave her child up in an open adoption and then she got attached. It wasn't a bad thing that she got attached until the adoptive parents decide to move across the country and she couldn't do anything about it. I just am not sure that my boyfriend or I could deal with that.

Clearly ,there are no easy decisions here and every choice has its consequences.Lifelong consequences.
I think you should talk to your parents about this and get their input.
Regardless of what they have said in the past ,when faced with the reality of their grandchild ,their feelings will be different.
Talk to them and see what they have to say,they may have some insight that you did not consider.
Good luck!

I have one other thing that I need some advice for. I am curious as to when I should tell my parents. I was thinking of waiting until I am at least 12 weeks pregnant. I just don't know if I want to go through the battle with them if there is still a chance I could miscarry. A couple of years ago I took a hpt because I was a little late for my period and it came out positive, and then the next day I started bleeding. I naturally assumed that I had miscarried. I did not tell my parents about that instance and don't know if I should tell them about this until I am sure that it will be a full term pregnancy. I know that even after 12 to 13 weeks there is still a chance of miscarrying but I also know that the chance lowers.

Should I tell them now or should I hold out a little longer?

A few questions.

Do your parents know that you're sexually active? If so, then they should know that pregnancy is always a possibility, even if you use every birth control made by man, it's still possible. This may not be much of a shock if they already know that you're having sex.

Are you the only child? Do they have other children and do they have grandchildren?

I would tell them now. If you wait until 12 weeks then your options are less. You don't really want an abortion at 12 weeks if you can avoid it.

Talk to them. Sit them down, write down what you want to say so that emotions don't carry you away. Let them know that this wasn't something you planned and that you really need their support. Tell them that you're thinking of abortion, that you're also thinking of keeping the child but that you have concerns. List those concerns, the number one being that you don't think you can afford a child and school and you think that they'll cut you off if you do have the child.

Talk to them, they're people too and trust me, I'm sure they made mistakes growing up. :)

At the school that I go to, there is a pretty cheap (if not free) child care center. Maybe look around your school and see if they have one there as well.

If you are at an expensive university, I suggest that you finish off this year, and possibly switch to a less expensive community college with a childcare center.

If you have not already filed for financial aid, do so. THis will help you pay for your schooling while you are coming to term.
I would at least finish off the school year there, seeing as you have 8 months until the child is born. And then do as I suggested above.
Also, you might be able to apply for WIC, it can help you feed your child.

Here's a link for that.
WIC (http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/)

Should you choose to keep this child, there are many means of support that you can get help from, especially if daddy doesn't stick around. (I really hope that he does)
I wish you the best of luck.

They do know that I'm sexually active, we just haven't really discussed it much. I am an only child so I know this will be a huge thing for them. I have been doing a lot of thinking about this over the past few days and know that I do not want an abortion. I know that I could never live with myself if I did that. Now I just have to convince my boyfriend that it is best for me not to get an abortion. But he loves me and has told me he will continue loving me and support me through any decision I make.

I am a freaking coward though, and I am scared to death to tell my parents! I know that sounds stupid and childish but I am terrified. My mother and I have not always had the best relationship but in the past couple years we have been closer than ever before. I just don't want to do anything to jeopardize that relationship if I can help it.

I am a freaking coward though, and I am scared to death to tell my parents! I know that sounds stupid and childish but I am terrified. My mother and I have not always had the best relationship but in the past couple years we have been closer than ever before. I just don't want to do anything to jeopardize that relationship if I can help it.

I have the feeling that your mom will be more understanding than you think. She is your mother, and she loves you, maybe when you talk to her say something like
"mom, I have to talk to you, Please don't say anything until I'm finished, I'm really scared right now, and I need you now more than I ever have, Mom, I'm pregnant, Please, I need you to be here for me"
You'd be surprised at the reaction you'd get.
She will be shocked, surprised, and possibly a little disappointed, but she will be glad that you were able to come to her. This might even bring you closer, because she will be able to advize you on something that she has already experienced.
Honestly, I'm sure that somewhere in the back of her mind, she's knows you're going to tell her someday anyway, just because it's sooner than anticipated doesn't mean she'll love you any less.

Your mother loves you. No matter what.

Sure they'll be shocked, they may even be angry at first, but I do think they'll come around.

The sooner you tell them the better. You don't need the fear weighing on your mind. Also, if you wait, they'll probably be upset that you didn't tell them sooner.

Start prenatal vitamins right away, it's best for your baby. Also, make an appointment with your doctor, to confirm pregnancy and to make sure you're doing the things you need to do to make sure you and baby stay healthy.

Remind your boyfriend that this child is his too, you didn't make it on your own so of course he has to support you and the child you're carrying.

I know you're scared, but you'll be a mom soon, wouldn't you want to know if your child needs you? I'm sure your parents do too.

I have already been to the doctor, that's how I found out. Quite a shock going in for a pap smear and finding out I'm expecting. The only thing that he told me is I need to come in twice in one week to check my hcg levels and to get an initial ultrasound. He also told me to make sure that I start taking a multivitamin.

Make your decision wisely.
If you A) Decide on having an abortion. It will haunt you. I know firsthand. My girlfriend and I aborted a child when we were 18 or so. I think of it often. Even MORE now that I have two young sons. And I am 47.

It was ultimately her decision, and I supported her.

Or B) Have the child, and put it up for adoption. You will be haunted by this choice also. You will always wonder where your child is, and if it is being loved the way you would.

And then C) Have the child, and experience the greatest joy of all. Yes, having a child is a huge responsibility, but it will also fill your heart with so much love.

The first two options will literally take a piece of your heart and soul.

It's not like I am trying to convince you to GET pregnant, you already ARE pregnant, and I am trying to help you make a choice that you can LIVE with.

Every day people your age have children. And they make it work.

No, it wasn't in your plans, but here you are.

As far as telling your parents, we don't know them, and don't know how they are going to react. But they too will have to live with the hand that has been dealt.

I say tell them. The sooner the better.

I hope everything works out for you.

May God bless you and your child.

Your mother loves you. No matter what.

Sure they'll be shocked, they may even be angry at first, but I do think they'll come around.

The sooner you tell them the better. You don't need the fear weighing on your mind. Also, if you wait, they'll probably be upset that you didn't tell them sooner.

Start prenatal vitamins right away, it's best for your baby. Also, make an appointment with your doctor, to confirm pregnancy and to make sure you're doing the things you need to do to make sure you and baby stay healthy.

Remind your boyfriend that this child is his too, you didn't make it on your own so of course he has to support you and the child you're carrying.

I know you're scared, but you'll be a mom soon, wouldn't you want to know if your child needs you? I'm sure your parents do too.

Can't rep you Alty but I could not agree more ! Parents are not just there for us during the good times,the love of a parent is unconditional and they will come around!

Now that the shock is gone, I am extremely excited! I now can not wait!

Now come the actually pregnancy questions...

My breasts are starting to swell now but I noticed today that my nipples are completely white from time to time. Is this normal? I also squeezed one nipple a tiny bit and a small amount of discharge came out. I just want to make sure this is all normal or if I should be worried about anything.

I am glad I am finally having symptoms now though because now I actually feel pregnant and can start getting excited!

If anyone has any response to my last question, I would greatly appreciate an answer. I am just wanting to make sure everything is normal!

Thanks in advance!

Don't be paranoid, check with your doctor, but I'm sure you'e fine. THe important thing is not to stress too much and eat as healthy as you can, also, take your vitamins, they're good for you! And drink lots of milk!

What about amnio? Would it be a good idea to get this procedure. I know I need to ask my doctor all these questions but my appointment is not till next week and I am getting really excited and am wanting to figure everything out NOW! :-) If I do choose to do amnio, when would this procedure be done?

What about amnio? Would it be a good idea to get this procedure. I know I need to ask my doctor all these questions but my appointment is not till next week and I am getting really excited and am wanting to figure everything out NOW!! :-) If I do choose to do amnio, when would this procedure be done?

I wouldn't got too anxious about it, if you do decide to get it done, you might have to wait till a certain time of your pregnancy to do it. I suggest you just wait for your doctor to tell you what's best, in case you end up getting misinformation elsewhere (we try our very best not to do that here) It's good that you're excited, but be a little more patient, you've got months and months of having this child grow inside of you, that's plenty of time to treat it properly before it's born.

Good luck. :) I hope everything goes well for you. :)

What about amnio? Would it be a good idea to get this procedure. I know I need to ask my doctor all these questions but my appointment is not till next week and I am getting really excited and am wanting to figure everything out NOW!! :-) If I do choose to do amnio, when would this procedure be done?

Well, I'm the next best thing to a doctor here. I am an RN in labor, delivery and women's health. If I can't answer your questions I will refer you to your doctor.

Okay... the nipple discharge is normal. It's call colostrum and the healthiest thing for the baby if you breastfeed.

Amnio? Why? You don't need it at your age unless there are some serious medical problems in your family. It is a very serious procedure that carries a lot of risks. Not only am I a nurse, but I also had an amnio. This is not recommended for women under 35 years of age or you or the father of the baby have some risk factors.

The amniocentesis is typically done somewhere between the 16th and the 20th week of pregnancy. I had mine at 18 weeks.

Also, make sure you are taking prenatal vitamins now. You can get them over the counter and don't need a prescription any more. They lower the risk of certain birth anomalies such as spina bifida.

I have Also just found out I'm pregnant and even though I am married, for one month it is still a massive shock. Don't assume all these feelings are just related to you age and situation. I am 30 and still feel like a child so cannot believe it. I was terrified for the first couple of days and could only imagine the worst case scenario to everything, however with time I feel better. Sometimes when there is something so massive like this in front of you I think you have to trust fate or god depending on your belief and know that everything happens for a reason. Good luck honey x

I have Also just found out I'm pregnant and even though I am married, for one month it is still a massive shock. Don't assume all these feelings are just related to you age and situation. I am 30 and still feel like a child so cannot believe it. I was terrified for the first couple of days and could only imagine the worst case scenario to everything, however with time I feel better. Sometimes when there is something so massive like this in front of you I think you have to trust fate or god depending on your belief and know that everything happens for a reason. Good luck honey x

I go into get my first sonogram tomorrow! I am now right around 6 1/2 to 7 weeks. What exactly will this ultrasound show? I know that my doctor wants to check exactly how far along I am, but I already know exactly how far I am... Since the only time that I could have possibly conceived was Halloween. So I am just wondering what I will learn from this ultrasound? I am so excited for it though!

My ultrasound tech told me today that I am farther along than I could possibly be. I was just curious how accurate a sonogram is for detecting how far along a pregnancy is and the due date?

Well I think that since you have ruled out abortion you can wait 8 months to make you decision you might change you mind from adoption to keeping him/her and back one hundred times before you make your deicsion but I really don't think you will be able to make up your mind until you hold you child in your arms

well i think that since you have ruled out abortion you can wait 8 months to make you decision you might change you mind from adoption to keeping him/her and back one hundred times before you make your deicsion but i really dont think you will be able to make up your mind until you hold you child in your arms

I have definitely made the decision to keep the baby! I spoke to my parents and they are supporting me 100%. They want a grandchild and even though the timing is off neither of us could deal with adoption.

I am happy your parents are there for you! And I think keeping your baby is a wonderful decision! No one can love your child like you! Congrads

Congratulations! To answer your question, the ultrasound could be off by a little, but not too much. They are pretty accurate.

The ultrasound age goes off the weight, length and development of the fetus. It could be off, but usually not overly so.

Having said that, my last ultrasound with my son, 1 week before he was born, said that he'd be over 9 pounds. One week later he was born at 8 pounds 2 1/2 ounces, so yes, it can be off. Keep in mind that this was over 11 years ago. Technology is better now. ;)

The ultrasound may be off my daughter could have been due by the size the dr said her head was on march 8th and they said on march 28th she was 9 1/2 and she was born on April 1 2009 at 7 lbs 15oz and a normal sized head for a baby born at full term she didn't have a huge head like the doctors made me fear! So you can give them around a 2weeks at the most

Okay, good! I was just making sure because the doctor put the date of my conception on a date I was in the hospital having surgery! Haha... I obviously know that it was not possible to conceive this day! I am 100% positive that the only time that I could have conceived was Halloween, which was about 2 weeks after my surgery. I guess I was just nervous because I had heard that a dr. thinking you are farther along than you are could be a sign of twins, and while I would love twins someday, right now would not be the best time for that since I have just come around to the idea of having one baby!

Okay, new question. I am now around 10 weeks pregnant and I have had some symptoms: breast tenderness and growth, nausea, and fatigue. Even with these symptoms I still don't feel like I'm pregnant. Is this normal? I feel like I should feel like I'm pregnant. Why don't I yet and if it is normal, when should I feel like I am actually pregnant? I am really excited for this baby so I want to be able to feel like I have him or her growing inside of me.

This is very common. You will actually feel pregnant when you start showing and also again when you start feeling movements.

Okay, good. I am very glad to hear this. I was starting to get nervous that something was wrong, even though I have had no sign of a miscarriage. I have always just heard about women feeling pregnant. I also wanted to make sure that there is nothing psychologically wrong with me.

Perfectly normal hun!

Okay, new question. I am now around 10 weeks pregnant and I have had some symptoms: breast tenderness and growth, nausea, and fatigue. Even with these symptoms I still don't feel like I'm pregnant. Is this normal? I feel like I should feel like I'm pregnant. Why don't I yet and if it is normal, when should I feel like I am actually pregnant? I am really excited for this baby so I want to be able to feel like I have him or her growing inside of me.

You'll feel him/her soon enough, trust me.

The first pregnancy is always so uncertain. You want to look pregnant, feel pregnant, feel the baby, hear the heartbeat. You can't wait to get to each new stage. These things take time though.

The first miracle is usually being able to hear your baby's heartbeat at a doctors appointment. It sounds like a little train and it's the most beautiful sound ever. This usually happens no later then 12 weeks.

Then your waist starts to expand. You still look more fat then pregnant, but that will soon change.

Then there's the first flutter. It feels like a butterfly kiss (you know, someone brushes their eyelashes against your cheek) inside your tummy. You think, "is this gas?" but no, it's the baby.

Before you know it those little butterfly kisses turn to kicks. There are times when your belly will look like a scene from the movie "Aliens". You'll wonder if you have a demon child in there. ;)

Each stage is wonderful and amazing. Enjoy it. Enjoy the pregnancy. If something is going to happen it will happen no matter what you do. So take care of yourself, your body, your mental health and just relax and enjoy.

That's an order by the way. ;)

Grow up. Put aside your emotional drama and start addressing your situation logically. What is in your child's best interest? Do you think you are one of those "Super Moms" that can do anything? You know, have a job, go to school, have relationships, make a baby, raise a baby, have a career and be great at all of them? Talk to your parents NOW and give your baby up for adoption. You and many others in your situation are too immature, have no financial resources to raise a child, and are not focused on what is best for the baby.

sboresow,

She has already told her parents, has already decided to keep the baby, and is very happy and excited, did you read all the posts??

Thanks Cowgirly and Altenweg for your support on this! I saw sboresow's post before you posted and it was very disheartening to me. I got very upset with this comment (which could be due to the major hormones running through me). It made me rethink all the decisions I have made. I am really happy to have others stick up for me! I know I have made the right choice and I am 100% sure I can handle this HUGE responsibility. I have the financial and emotional support from my parents for the time being. As soon as I can handle the financial situation on my own I will do it. I also have a boyfriend who loves me and cares about me very much! I have what I need to raise a baby, while it may not be the most ideal situation ever, I know I can do it! :-)

Good for you!!

New question! As you can tell this is all very new to me! I have never had acne before my pregnancy but now I am breaking out very badly. I know that I am not supposed to use acne face washes or certain other face washes. I was just wondering what is the best and safest face wash/scrub that I can use. I just bought clean and clear morning burst in-shower facial. I just want to make sure that it is safe to use before I start using it. If anyone has any info about this or knows something better I can use please let me know! Thanks in advance!

I have a question about my due date/how many weeks pregnant I am. I have the book What to Expect, which I have been reading a lot. It states that pregnancy technically starts the first day of you last period. The first day of my last period was October 18, 2009. So that would put me at 15 weeks today. My doctor did an ultrasound last month and the readings on it show that I am 13 weeks, 2 days. I know it doesn't matter too much but I am just curious which one it is. My boyfriends parents live on the other side of the country so they are trying at this time to get plane tickets to be here for the birth which will take place in July. My doctor says my due date is July 30, 2010, but from what my book says it is July 18, 2010. This could make a big difference when it comes to them getting tickets. They were planning on getting one way tickets a week before my due date and staying till after I have the baby. I just don't want them to get them for July 24 and them miss out on me having the baby.

Any ideas about this would be greatly appreciated. (P.S. - I am really excited to learn the sex as soon as possible)

There's really no way to know for sure.

The unofficial rule is that45% of babies are born in the 2 week span before their due date, 45% are born in the 2 week span after the due date and 10% are born on the due date.

The only way to pinpoint your due date a bit better would be to know when you ovulated and go by that date. Still, gestation for some is longer or shorter then others.

I would go by the ultrasound. They measure the baby, take note of changes that would indicate gestational age. At this point in your pregnancy your baby is changing weekly, so their guess of 13 weeks is probably pretty accurate. Still, your baby could come early or late.

I would wait a while before telling your boyfriends parents the date they should come. You will most likely be having another ultrasound sometimes during your pregnancy, most times (at least in Canada) they do an ultrasound at around 6 months. They should be able to give you a more accurate reading of age at that time. Still, like I said, gestational age and date of delivery, it's impossible to pinpoint the exact day, even your doctor can't tell you when with 100% accuracy.

My son was 4 days late (which is not bad) and my daughter was a fluke, she was born on her due date.

I've had many friends that are pregnant 2 weeks after their due date but because of ultrasounds and non-stress tests, they aren't induced because the due date was most likely off.

Your doctor can explain this a lot better then I can. ;)

Your due date will be what the doctor has told you, not what the book says.

Even so, as Alty has mentioned, babies come when babies are ready. It may be 2 weeks or more early or late (but we don't let you go past 41 weeks gestation).

It's best right now to wait for them to get their plane tickets. It's still early in your pregnancy. Wait until you are at least 20 weeks, then the doctor can induce you. OR they can come when you get home from the hospital.

Thanks for the answers. I have already been told that I would get a second ultrasound around 20 weeks. I just wasn't sure because when I had my first one done I was 7 weeks and 5 days and the baby was so small the ultrasound was done intra-vaginally so I wasn't sure if this reading would have shown the baby to be smaller than it was since it was so early on. We are just worried about finding the cheapest plane tickets for them. They are not so thrilled about this in the first place and I just want them to be here and not just decide to skip out if they miss the birth. We are trying to get them to plan their vacations around this because they want to go on like 3 vacations over the summer not including the birth of their grandchild. His parents have taken this news much worse than my parents. They are very unhappy about it an disappointed.
On my part I don't want them to miss out on this event because I feel if they do, they won't want to be involved in the babies life at all, and I don't want that for my child. I want my child to have 2 sets of loving grandparents.

Look, I understand your worry & frustration. Really I do !
I am 16 years old & 4 weeks pregnant.
I am no longer in high school but trying to obtain a GED.
I had my whole future planned out, Marine bound ;; everything was planned. & then BAM! Like a ton of bricks - Me & the father are stunned.
But after debate we decided we got ourselves into this mess, & it is NOT our life to take, Please don't let abortion be in your options at all - After 18days that little one has a heart beat, making it legally a human life, Being your 5 weeks - I can promise you, There is a little heart in there :]
I know it is scary, Trust me ! I am a baby having a baby !
I NEVER in my wildest dreams expected this one, But I had to sit down & think to myself I will never be able to live with myself if I let MY baby go - Could you if you let YOUR little bundle go?
Everything will work out. This happened for a reason, & maybe right now the reason is on clear but I can assure you, You were blessed wif that little one for some good reason. Don't let that reason be a waste.
Take care of yourself & that baby ;;
EVERYTHING will work out in DUE TIME.

I am 16 years old & 4 weeks pregnant.


I thought you just missed your period.


https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens-health/lump-right-boob-440113.html



I know I could be pregnant



Does it sound like I'm pregnant ? Are these early stage pregnancy symptoms ?

How do you go from not being sure you are pregnant to being 4 weeks pregnant all in the span of a couple of hours?

Also, had you read the entire thread, which you did not, you would know that the OP is keeping this baby.

I have a kind of emergent question. I am now 16 weeks 3 days and last night before bed I fell down a flight of stairs that had 10 stairs on it. (It was Valentine's Day and I was wearing pantyhose on a wood floor in front of the stairs, naturally I would take a tumble.) It was around midnight and I was absolutely exhausted and felt completely fine, so I decided to just go to bed. This morning aside from being obviously a little sore from the fall, I am also nauseous and a bit light headed. I seem to be completely out of the nauseated stage of this pregnancy so I don't know if morning sickness has just hit back up again, the food I ate last night isn't sitting with me right, or it has something to do with the fall. I am just a little worried about it.

Also, just so everyone knows, when I fell, I fell on my back not my stomach. I also hit my head pretty hard at the bottom of the landing when I fell. I did however fall head over heels, but I don't believe I hit my belly at all. I have my monthly appointment tomorrow anyway, so I didn't know if I should wait till then to be seen or if I should be seen right away. Any advice as quickly as possible would be really appreciated.

Hey cllockhart,I hope you got seen to and that everything is OK with you and the baby.

Anytime you have a bad fall.pregnant or not its always best to get checked out.

Hey everyone! I'm sure you all are getting sick of my questions by now, but I have a new one! My fiancé who lives with me was just diagnosed with an h. pylori infection. I know that it is contagious for people that live together. I was just checking if I should go get tested to make sure that I don't have it yet or if there are any precautions I should take while he is trying to get rid of it. Any info will be appreciated.

H. pylori is fairly common and is also contagious, but does not really harm the baby. If you are concerned, you can just start taking Active Manuka Honey UMF 16+ or higher UMF rating, found in the health food store. The honey causes an environment in the stomach that makes it impossible for it to thrive.

It's really no necessary, though, unless you are extremely concerned about it. The honey also builds up your immune system and does not harm the baby.

It would be beneficial for your fiancé too. It cured me of a horrible ulcer I had. You have to be faithful about taking it for many months, though.

Active Manuka Honey Internal Uses (http://www.activemanukahoneyusa.com/FAQ.htm)

It has been awhile since I have posted on here. I am now 37 weeks along and got checked today for dilation and effacement. I was also checked last week and my doctor told me to expect a little blood. I didn't notice any blood last week but today after I was checked I went to the bathroom about an hour later and noticed a clot of blood (about the size of a nickle) in the toilet. It has been about an hour since I saw that and about 2 hours since I was checked and I am still bleeding a significant amount. I am also having some cramps in my abdominal area. The baby is still moving fine and everything, I just want to make sure everything sounds normal. Also my doctor told me last week that I have already lost my mucous plug.

Have you called the hospital?

If your bleeding a significant amount,I think its best to err on the side of caution and ring and speak to someone in the hospital.

It is common to see blood after being "checked." The cervix is highly "vascular." Any time there is any form of manipulation, either by being checked or intercourse, bleeding is expected and normal. Also, after the cervix is manipulated, there is a release of oxytocin, the hormone that starts labor, and can cause some contractions.

Time your contractions from the beginning of the first one to the beginning of the next one. Are they regular?

If all else fails, go to the hospital to get checked out.