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jessnr1116
Dec 2, 2009, 10:46 AM
Well I'm 18... im a freshman in college... and I'm dating a guy that has kid... he is 23. His son is 3 years old. We went to high school together and lost touch after he graduated. After I graduated we regained touch and started dating. I knew he had a kid when we started dating. I just don't know how to react to the situation. I personally don't want to kid right now because lets face it I'm to young for that right now. He is a great guy he treats me well and would do anything for me. I guess what I worry about most is that I don't want to be the reason he neglects his kid. Not that I think he will I just worry I suppose. I love him dearly and if we do decide to get married after I graduate I will be more than happy to adopt his son. The kids mom is no longer in the picture and my boyfriend is a great dad. It makes me happy to see him spend time with him because I can tell he is a great daddy and if we decide to have kids in the future I already know that he will be an amazing father to our children. If you have any advice on how I can cope with all these emotions and just know that it is OK id love to hear it... thanks!

talaniman
Dec 2, 2009, 11:58 AM
Relax, date and have fun, and see how things are after you graduate. Just understand his child is his first priority and whatever it takes to raise that child should come first. Relax and just show them love and support.

Graduation is a long way off so stay focus on that.

jaime90
Dec 2, 2009, 12:14 PM
Stay friends with him, but dating a man with a young child is an extremely delicate situation... The last thing you want to do is get everyone (including yourself, and his kid) emotionally involved in your relationship and then end up being unsure and breaking it off. Don't continue a relationship beyond friendship, until you are sure you can handle a long-term, serious relationship, with marriage in mind. If you don't, you will break up and hurt everybody in the process.