We (my husband and I) have 2 adopted children (girls) from Russia. We adopted them at 1.5 yoa and 2.5 yoa. They are now 9 and 10. Our only problem / issue is with our 10 yoa. She has severe RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder), she is on meds and has we have gone to several RAD therapists with no success. She is not violent, but has every other symptom / characterist is there. Lying, cheating, stealing, manipulating, control issues, screaming, no remorse, I could go on and on. I want this child out of my house! I don't even know / think that I'd ever want her to come back into our home. I think she would do well in a home of a single parent (mother) or a couple with no other children, where she could get the attention and help that she needs. I am close to having a nervous break down, I am on meds because of her and I am physically ill because of her. What would be my best option?

Your best option is to grow up and be a parent. You adopted these kids. They are yours. Parenthood is not all sunshine and roses and you don't just step out of it when it gets hard. You have a child with a disability - would you just dump her if she were biologically yours? How dare you. If you weren't in it for better or worse, you should never have adopted. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and be an adult and the mom you promised to be when you adopted her.

Sorry it really does not work like that,
How long have you been in counseling, how long with each.

You can talk to social services, but in general we have the kids we have, in your case you choose them and have to do your best for them

Your BEST option would be to get some counseling.

And take parenting classes.