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hd131
Nov 30, 2009, 07:38 AM
I'm married for 3 years and have a kid of 1 year old.ours is love marriage.I used to wrk before now I'm housewife. After the delivery, I'm feeling vey insecured of myself. Sometimes I start crying myself that he may leave me. I love him him a lot. If he talks to any girl I just get jealous think that he is ignoring me. I discussed my problem with him. He assures me that he is not falling for any girl.but I don't know suddenly I'll get upset and start crying which I don't want do in front him.
Please help me to come out of it

QLP
Nov 30, 2009, 07:19 PM
If this has only happened since the birth it is worth chatting about with your health care providers as it could be hormonal, and if not they can probably provide you with information about support groups for new parents. Even just getting together with other new mums and their kids for coffee once a week can be a source of reassurance.

It's also possible that having a child has brought out something from the past that is unresolved and is making you feel insecure. This often happens for some reason, that something we thought we were OK with suddenly comes back at us when we become parents. You could explore this with a counsellor, but again I would say start with your doctor or health-visitor (if they have those where you live) first.

They won't think you're a nut or are being silly, you would be amazed how many people this happens to.