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dontworrybehappy23
Nov 28, 2009, 04:25 PM
I have this one guy friend who always sends mixed signals towards me. Whenever I text him he doesn't really have a conversation, its more like a one sided conversation, with me doing all the talking. Or one worded answers. Then on some occasions he'll call me babe or quickly turn the conversation down the sexual road. I just want to be good friends with him, but he never opens up to me and doesn't tell me about himself. And for the most part he's always an towards me but sometimes he's nice. I just don't understand. Does he see me as a friend or not?

summer7
Nov 28, 2009, 04:35 PM
Hi,
I think that most guys have a difficult time opening up. Most guys, not all, have a slower start in discussing things that are on a deeper level. Just from you mention here, sounds like maybe he has some "sexual" feelings for you. I think that a lot of times guys will test the waters with some "sexy talk". If I were you, I'd totally wait it out for awhile with him. He might just want a friend with benefits and no real intimacy.

Devorameira
Nov 28, 2009, 04:42 PM
Some people are just not great at communication. Men especially like simple 1-2 word responses.

With the information you provided it's impossible to tell if he's wanting to be a friend or lover. He may be wanting to be more than a friend - at least I've never had a friend call me "babe" before. That's suspicious but not conclusive. :confused:

Have you ever tried to have a real discussion with him about where your relationship is?

I wish
Nov 28, 2009, 04:47 PM
Ask him.

He has the answer, so go find out.

rosemcs
Nov 29, 2009, 05:27 PM
What kind of "friend" do you really think he is if he won't even talk? A man that has nothing to say and can only talk sexually has a very simple mind. Once he has you, he will go elsewhere, because he did not care to build up the relationship enough to have a foundation on anything besides sex.

Forget him, there are plenty of other men out there that know how to carry on a conversation. They may be more likely to work on the bumps in the relationship as time goes on and will hopefully have the decency to treat you with respect other than an object.