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Well I have a little problem I can't get a better loking boyfriend but all the boyfriends that I get are ugly

I wonder if they think the same thing? People who are too into looks will never be happy

How old are you please?

Have you seen the movie "Shallow Hal"?

I think that it's "ugly" that you judge so wrongly.

Having a hot boyfriend doesn't matter. If you are only dating guys for their looks, you could end up with an abusive, controlling boyfriend- and what is a hot boyfriend worth when he treats you like crap? Good looks should not be your main priority when you're looking for boyfriend material. If you are just dating for the heck of having a boyfriend, being popular, or nailing the best lookin', smokin' hot guy in the county, you shouldn't be dating.

I don't have a boyfriend because I need some one to always ask if I'm all right when I'm sad and really has the nerv to say "I love u" and to protect me from my ex's past. And stay with me until I die and good looking



NOT TO JUST HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT SOME ONE TO LOVE ME FOR ME!

How old are you?

How can you meet new people when your 16 and not able to go to bars or any thing that you would see in a movie but really how can I find some one in my state that I could talk to?

Movies are not real life. At 16 you should be participating in school clubs, and other similar activities. That's how you meet guys.

To scottGem. I know but I'm really the invisable girl at my school and I really don't have a lot of time to do after school stuff but any others?

Why don't you have time to do after school stuff? How about getting a job. That might be helpful.

To J_9 Y I don't have because school is just too much some times and can't really deal with it

To J_9. 16

Hi, am3201993!

What are you doing when you're not in school, please?

Thanks!

You have the same 24 hours in a day as any other girl in your school, it is how you use them.

You don't need someone to ask you if you are okay when you feel sad. This will get old very fast and that boy will take off running.

To Clough. I really do nothing but I don't like my school so I try and stay away in the afternoons after hours

To J_9.I know but not every time but u know some one that cares

I'm really the invisable girl at my school
Why are you invisible?

What do you do after school and all evening?

To wondergirl. I say that I'm invisable because no one notices me even though I try but I really do nothing in the afternoons because I don't want to be stuck at school and I don't like being their.

This may help understanding the OP:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/have-boyfriend-now-but-how-can-love-him-afar-419854.html

to wondergirl. I say that I'm invisable bc no one notices me even though I try but I really do nothing in the afternoons bc I don't want to be stuck at school and I don't like being their.

First, please don't type in chat speak, that's not allowed here. We type in full words and sentences.

There are lots of ways teens meet up. But we need to know more about you to help. Why don't you like to stay around school to be in clubs? What else do you do with your time? Have you talked to your parents or a school counselor?

To SCOTTGEM. That guy that I had he broke up with me he dumped me like yeasterday's trash

He won't be the last. I know it hurts, but you have a long life ahead of you. Maybe you should concentrate on your schoolwork and preparing for college.

To scottgem. I only have one year left of school then I'm out! And Idk how long I'm going to live for so that is y I'm asking

First, please don't type in chat speak, that's not allowed here. We type in full words and sentences.

There are lots of ways teens meet up. But we need to know more about you to help. Why don't you like to stay around school to be in clubs? What else do you do with your time? Have you talked to your parents or a school counselor? I don't because it's just werid

OK, if you want us to help you, you have to give us something to go on. Just saying something is weird doesn't help us help you.

I don't because it's just werid
How is it weird?

Do kids pick on you, or just ignore you?

Have you ever had a real-life friend?

What do you LIKE about school?

Is there at least one teacher you like?

To wondergirl. It just is. Some times and they just ignore me that is y I'm the ghost girl. Yea I have friends I sit with them at lunch all the time. Lunch is my fave. My Hurticluture teacher and my art teacher.

To scottgem. What do u want me to say?

to scottgem. what do u want me to say?

I want to understand why you don't like your school. What you do with your time outside of school, etc. We need to understand these things if we are to help.

To ScottGem. Why I don't like my school because we have the worst teachers and the highest drop out rate in our state.

Outside of school I just don't do anything but when I'm at home all I do is work some times.

outside of school I just don't do anything but when I'm at home all I do is work some times.
What kind of work? Housework? Chores? Homework? Every day?

What about getting a job somewhere to make money?

Do you live in a farm area or a small town or in a city?

Instead of replying in short sentences, try spending some time thinking about our questions and give us something we can go on to help you.

To ScottGem. I do chores at home and I don't really have to work a lot but how does this help me with my problem?

To scottGem. Who are you?

to scottGem. who r u?

This is your last warning. We do NOT allow chat speak here. It's who ARE YOU? R and U are just letters.

If you want to know who I am, look at my profile.

am3201993...

You need to seriously consider a few things:

1. You do not need a boyfriend.

2. You're 16. Learn more about yourself at this age, then how to get a boyfriend.

3. When you are so desperate to get a boyfriend, chances are, you will fall for the first guy that pays you some attention, and he will end up lousy, and you will get your heartbroken. Desperation is a trap. Get out of it!

4. Find out what love really is. Words may speak, but actions sing. Love is commitment, respect, trust, willingness to die for someone. Love is a choice, and love is a verb, feelings do not last. Love is not romantic feelings.

5. Be friends with guys. Friends before lovers, and you'll avoid getting into a relationship with someone you barely know.

To ScottGem. Who are you I would like to know?

To jaime99. I don't have time left in high school so I get out soon. Because I was born in March so it takes a while but now I'm 16 1/2.

I told you, look at my Profile

To scottGem. I did but it doesn't tell me if you're a dude or not?

Are you asking whether I'm male? I've told you before you need to be more specific in your postings.

To ScottGem. Yes I am asking that.

Yes I am a male

OK then that answers my question

Now how old are you?

Old enough to give you good advice.

Oh OK then.

I am just small minded I guess that you don't want to talk to me that much I know.

My cousin asked me to type that sorry about that ScottGem.

If your cousin wants to ask a question, tell her to start her own account and post in the appropriate forum

She is now

Hello ScottGem?

This is not chat site. You post your question and wait for someone to answer.

I know but I have no one else to talk to

But you make it seem like it because you talk to me still.

I know but I have no one else to talk to
That has nothing to do with your using chatspeak.

I'm here. What don't we know about you that would be important to know?

I like horse backriding and slow walks on summer nights that enough?

What more do you want?

what more do you want?
A lot.

I'm beginning to understand your problem.

What is my problem?

You don't like yourself very much.

I like myself I just don't like talking about myself some times

I like myself I just don't like talking about myself some times
That's not why I think that. Your original question says it plain and clear: 1) you need some one to always ask if you're all right when you're sad, 2) you need someone to tell you "I love you," 3) you need someone to protect you, 4) you need someone to stay with you until you die, 4) you want someone good-looking. That's a lot of neediness. Needy people don't like themselves and want the rest of the world to take care of them.

Apparently you've slopped through school and haven't taken any pride in learning the material you were taught.

It doesn't seem like you have learned social skills in how to get along with older people who are wiser than you are as well as people in person and online.

You just need to find a decent guy and slowly build up a relationship with him. Start by starting a conversation and finding out some stuff about him. Then you can progress onto flirting. If you notice he begins to like u then ask him out. Believe me he will be relieved he doesn't have to ask the question. Trust me I'm a guy.

To wondergirl. I have staied in one room for most of my days at school just one room all day that is why I have some problems who would you like it if you had to stay in one room all day?

To johncolly4. Yes I do thank you for noticing that but I don't ask out guys really you should go to Zodiac Signs - Learn About Astrology Signs (http://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/) and look up Pisces.

to wondergirl. I have staied in one room for most of my days at school just one room all day that is why I have some problems who would you like it if you had to stay in one room all day?
I went to a small school in the country with dairy cows next door. There were three grades to a classroom, so I stayed in one room for three years, and I learned how to spell too.

to johncolly4. yes I do thank you for noticing that but I don't ask out guys really you should go to Zodiac Signs - Learn About Astrology Signs (http://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/) and look up Pisces.
Please don't live your life according to what your horoscope says!

To wondergirl. I don't its about the signs not like a horoscope it tells you about the sign and what it's like to date the sign you are going for.

To scottGem. I would like to talk to you if you don't mind please.

I guess I have problems talking to guys sometimes and I just don't know what to say what kind of subjects should I talk about?

I guess that I have my own problems that I can't commuitcate wow I'm upset now.

Hello anyone?

to wondergirl. I don't its about the signs not like a horoscope it tells you about the sign and what it's like to date the sign you are going for.
Yes, I understand. I am a Scorpio but can also fit any other sign depending how one reads it. Please don't hang your hat on zodiac signs. Get to know the person in real life and in real time. And don't limit someone to what his or her sign says.

Well when your talking to a guy just be yourself. You could talk about the weather, politics, or science or just talk about everyday stuff. k.

Actually, they want to do the talking. Can you listen and ask good questions and look interested? If so, they will consider you the most fantastic conversationalist in the world.

You need to give yourself a break! I was always the shy quiet girl at school, it wasn't until I started college and started socialising with different people that I found my first love. I know it gets said all the time, but if you stop looking, it will find you. You are only 16 and have plenty of time for boyfriends, enjoy being you while you are single.

It doesn't take a scientific formula to talk to guys. Just talk about everyday things. When you have guys as friends, most aren't tons different than you girlfriends. Once you get to know them better, the conversations will get more serious. In the meantime, don't worry about trying to get it exactly right- there isn't really a right way. Learn about who the guy is, find some similar interests you have and go from there. Once you find out that you both like one thing, or have had a similar experience, it will be easy to talk to him. Also, you could consider jumping into a conversation with guys instead of conjuring one up- this will take a lot of pressure off you to be half of the conversation.

really half of the studentbody have relationships
That means the other half doesn't.

yea they graduated
So everyone is in a relationship except for you.

yes that is what I'm tring to say in the last few days
EVERY PERSON at school has a girlfriend or boyfriend -- the fat ones, the ugly ones, the stupid ones, the smart ones, the handicapped ones, the mentally challenged ones, the tall ones, the short ones -- ALL are in a relationship. But not you.

sad I know that is why I am asking this
Ummm, you do not live in the real world.

really everyone has some one in my school!!!!!!!
And little green men are going to invade Earth tonight while we are sleeping.

lol but really trust me they do
You and I know better than that.

Is there school tomorrow, or are you still on break?

I have school tomorrow yea
I want you to go up to the shyest boy you know (and yes, you know at least one) and start a conversation with him--and keep him talking. Then report back here tomorrow night.

their are no shy boys and 4 or 5 girl are pregos
How many students are in your school?

100 or 200 I don't really know how many but I know how many prego girls
Why are we talking about pregnant girls?

Are you male or female?

I am a girl I have one friend that is a prego
She must have gotten a boyfriend okay. What was her secret?

Don't you have another thread about an ex who was going to propose to you? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/gradution-gift-ex-boyfriend-431126.html
So now I'm confused you obviously had a boyfriend before and you know HE wants to be with you (I agree with everyone though you should say no) but what do you need another boyfriend for and why are you saying no one wants you?

We may have a troll on our hands.

Yeah but what I'm asking is
1-why do you need a boyfriend if you just had one, take some time to get over him, because based on your last thread your not over this one.
And 2-dont say your this "ghost girl" or "invisible" because you had a boyfriend.

But you still got a boyfriend, so its not impossible and people do like you.
I think if your always quiet and trying to separate yourself from people boys will be more likely to NOT talk to you. You need to show everyone your there speak up participate in activities, I know you said you like to stay away from your school but then how will anyone know that you want to be a part of anything? And if your going to be out of high school soon then won't you get a job and go to college? Well make friends there and have fun there make LOTS of friends both boys and girls and make sure you participate in things because if you don't people may think you have other things to be doing or someone else your seeing and they won't ever have an opportunity to be able to talk to you or get to know you.

I will go to collage I don't have to work really
Then stay away from boys this term and study hard to learn spelling and grammar and punctuation so you will be able to get into a college and add some punctuation to what you write.

"I will go to college. I don't have to work, really."

You may not HAVE to work but it could be good for you to socialize and meet people...

Multiple threads merged. Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

You need to lower your expectations when you meet new people. You can't expect every new person that you meet to be a potential boyfriend.

When you meet new people, enjoy the conversations and enjoy the process of getting to know them better. Once you've gotten to know each other better, feelings can potentially develop and a relationship would naturally form. You don't need to force the issue.

Why would you date someone if you don't really like them? That doesn't seem fair to the other person.

Secondly, you don't let other people bring you down. If you're sure that's the type of person you want to be with, then be happy for yourself. If you're unhappy in a relationship, then don't drag out the relationship. Find someone else to be happy with.

However, the problem I see here is that you have the need to be in a relationship. You're only 16, what's wrong with being single? What's wrong with waiting until you find the right guy for you?

well some of the people that I know bicker about the guys I date and ask me why I always date the ugly ones and I say I don't really know I guess that is all I can get.
Why are you online? Isn't this a school day?

In another thread (or something I'm confused about the merging now) that your boyfriend just broke up with you January 2 2010 but when we were talking before you said that happened 2 years ago?

in another thread (or something im confused about the merging now) that ur boyfriend just broke up with you january 2 2010 but when we were talking before you said that happend 2 years ago?

And, in another thread, you said that your ex boyfriend was going to propose to you.

We're all confused.

You're 16. Marriage shouldn't even be on your radar screen.

This is getting really ridiculous. THREAD CLOSED