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Choosy
Nov 9, 2006, 10:47 PM
I have been in a relation with a girl for 1 year.We had a lot of fun during that time.We both are 21 years old.I have completed my college in July 2006 and she went to some other city for higher education.she lived in a hostel.Now she says that she doesn't care about me and my feelings.She had never got a "feel-free" environment before this.She has lots of friends now and she wants to spend her two years only with her studies and friends.We were in commitment and we both wanted to get married after her studies as I was looking for a job.She said I am obsessing our relationship.She has reduced the communication slowly and slowly.Now she doesn't even want to meet me.I am not able to bear this rejection.I am very surprised at her changed behavior.I requested her several times not to leave me,but she damn bothered.This loneliness pinches me all the time.I have sacrificed my career just to make her feel happy but she said that she has nothing to do with this.I am not able to divert my interest to the other activities and important tasks.I really don't know why she has done this to me?She said that she will marry me but wants to enjoy her studies at present and moreover ,she also asked me to give similar kind of 'feel-free' environment after marriage,which is not possible.She never confessed this thing at the start of relation.I always feel like there is some other reason behind this.She is hiding something from me.But she denied all these perceptions.I am very depressed and angry.I am not able to keep myself away from this incident.What to do?

Krs
Nov 10, 2006, 01:49 AM
I know this may harsh but the truth hurts... count your blessings that all of this happened NOW and not further down the line...

She said something that put me off completely "She said that she will marry me but wants to enjoy her studies at present and moreover ,she also asked me to give similar kind of 'feel-free' environment after marriage".

MOVE ON, MOVE ON.
STOP ALL CONTACT.. Leave her be... don't answer her calls, nothing, ignore her.

You have a lot to offer, she don't want it, so move on.

talaniman
Nov 10, 2006, 05:41 AM
Krs is right, no contact will help you get over this girl and move on with your life without her.