My partner suffers from depression and has even considered suicide I love him and have been with him for 5 years were engaged to be married in Feb 2010 and have a beautiful boy together.. I can't seem to help him anymore he's constantly thinking about himself I can't get him out of this darkness that he has gotten himself into and I just don't know if its worth all the heart ache anymore.. I feel like he is not thinking of me or his son but I'm also afraid of my life and my sons life if we leave.. when I try to talk to him he makes out that its all about him but its affecting all of us and then it turns into an argument.. I don't feel like I can cope anymore but I will do anything for my son he is the most important person in all of this.. I tried to get him to talk to a professional but to no success, I have no life I'm constantly looking after him.. I don't want to seem selfish and take the easy way out but I just can't seem to see an end to all this please can somebody give me some advice on what I should do.. Thanks

YOU must see a counselor without your fiancé.

While children are a life changing event, I hardly think things are so drastically different after the 5 years you have spent together. I also know that 6 months is hardly enough time to make adjustment for either of you.

I urge you to see your doctor, and see if he recommends something to see you through this or maybe some additional help.

Even people without personal issues get overwhelmed after child birth, and need a bit of outside help.

I think your hubby really needs to seek some professional help for his depression.

You can push and pull at him all you like but the one thing chronically depressed people can't do is pull themselves together. The good news is that he can recover from this state, and you could gain a happy healthly husband, but not without outside help. A visit to the doctor, which he will probably be reluctant to make, could get him the antidepressants that could calm his depression and lift his sense of hopelessness.

Good luck! I'll be praying for your family!