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MGcali
Nov 16, 2009, 05:58 AM
OK, there was this girl who captivated me completely..

She was amazing.. she was very smart, extremely beautiful, perfect personality, practically any guys dream girl. School class president, prom queen, perfect.(though it seemed)
We both liked each other, a lot. Although we did, she didn't want to be together. She was moving away and she didn't want to fall in love and then have to go through the heartbreak of leaving. The problem is that there was about 4 months before she left. I saw the potential of a beautiful relationship and I just wanted to experience true love for that's what I saw in her. She liked me a lot too but she was very stubborn on the fact that she didn't want to try anything because of her departure. All I wanted is for us to go out for what it was worth. I knew I was never going to see her again and I knew I wasn't going to meet a girl like her again.

What hurts the most is being able to see something so beautiful, so special, and not be able to experience it. Having the girl of my dreams in front of me and not be able to kiss her, hug her, and tell her I loved her. Now that's she's gone. I can't help but wonder what will life bring forth for us. And if we will ever be together in the future. She'll be gone for like 5 yrs. Its ridiculous to even believe that it'll ever happen.. a lot of things can happen in 5 yrs. I know that if it was meant to be, then life will somehow find its way of bringing us back together.. but its hard you know? And its hard to hold on to the dream that one day she'll be back because I'll only be hurting myself. Ive tried going out with other girls but I learned that I can't forget her. She's coming to visit in December.. and I don't know if I should see her.. because I know I'll bring back memories with simply my presence and I don't want her to be sad on her visit. I have her as a friend on myspace and Facebook and it seems wrong to talk to her because it feels like I'm hurting her by talking to her and not letting her move on in her "new" life. I want her to be happy.. even if its without me. But its hard to see the (potential) love of your life and not be able to be by their side. If I love her enough I should let her go right.. but the thing is. I know that we're meant for each other... its hard to let her go. It truly is. If you guys could give me some advice it would greatly be appreciated..

Thank you very much.

I wish
Nov 16, 2009, 11:49 AM
It would be better to wait until your feelings for her have gone away before seeing her again.

MGcali
Nov 16, 2009, 04:19 PM
I guess you're right... so do I do no contact?

TrueFaith
Nov 16, 2009, 04:33 PM
Hey man

Seems to me you have your head on in the right place.. you wanted it. And you are understanding of the facts that it may or may not happen.

And are not willing to let that hope put you off living your own life..

My advice go no contact get those feelings out of your head..
Because she is away and free.. with sadly no feeling so she will probable be enjoying herself no point you sitting there in love with her not wanting to kiss a girl or go out with them. Because you feel like you would be cheating on her.

But you know all this.. already
Your mind is saying the right thing.. your heart not so much :)

Go no contact and enjoy your 5 years..
And then who knows what will happy that's the best part about life.
Just don't waist yours holding out for hope for something that may or may not happen.

Regards

I wish
Nov 16, 2009, 05:36 PM
i guess youre right... so do i do no contact?

If that's what you need to get over her, then do it.