SADMIL
Nov 15, 2009, 11:51 PM
I have been surfing web looking to see if other people were in my boat.
Hello,
I am just joining. Not exactly sure how this site works and will learn with time. I thought this site had old comments because I only saw posts from 2006/ Would be great if we could see latest posts first! To UNDERSTANDS, I am a MIL who does understand you. If your MIL has time during the day she should definitely watch your baby (her grandbaby) when you are at work (when she can). That would be a win-win for everyone. I would do that in a minute and 'so understand you'!! My DIL is a stay at home mom. She lives 10 minutes from me. She only allows me to see my grand daughters a couple of times a month for 1 hour between 5:30-6:30 (I only get to see the 3 year old for 30 min. and the 6 year old for 60 minutes) and this happenes about every 2-3 weeks. She gives me a 5 minute warning before she takes them. She has banned coloring, tracing, writing numbers, letters and certain songs that I teach them like BINGO. We are confined to one room and she listens to our conversations.
I always say hello to her and she never speaks to me with the exception of telling me what I cannot do. Sometimes, she makes immature faces at me (one time my son saw her do this and his jaw fell open).
She goes to her mother for several weeks, several times a year. Now, I just want to make it clear, I do not hold this against her or her mother. I like her mother and actually her entire family who are all very nice to me. I know the mother-daughter relationship is a diff bond but she is SO MEAN TO ME. And I love my grandchildren. I also am their grandmother and this wound has been hurting me for a long time.
I know, just hang in there. This is what I am doing. I do think my grandchildren love me but not sure?? They run to me when I visit and love to hear me read stories to them. The situation is toxic because I will keep going to see my grandchildren. I will not give them up and I know that is what she wants me to do.
My son does not know what to do. I don't know what to do. My son does allot to make it happen. He is home when I visit.
Everyone, please know that she WILL NOT TALK TO ME. Have not done so for 6 years. So, talking to her is not something that will occur. I have asked her, pleaded with her but she will not. She totally disrespects me.
My son said she is intimidated by me. Has low self esteem. Fears the children will want to be with me (but I do have my own life)>When I hear other grand parents talking about their grandchilren, I feel like I'm from another planet. I think to myself, why.
A few years ago her mother was joking around and told me that I was lucky. She told me that her daughter was a VERY, VERY MEAN person, joking around, but <she said> SHE HAS TO BE NICE TO YOU!!
At this point in my life, I have come to terms with taking whatever crumbs I get, but I still am pretty sad about this whole ordeal. It has changed the happy family I used to have.
SadMIL
Hello,
I am just joining. Not exactly sure how this site works and will learn with time. I thought this site had old comments because I only saw posts from 2006/ Would be great if we could see latest posts first! To UNDERSTANDS, I am a MIL who does understand you. If your MIL has time during the day she should definitely watch your baby (her grandbaby) when you are at work (when she can). That would be a win-win for everyone. I would do that in a minute and 'so understand you'!! My DIL is a stay at home mom. She lives 10 minutes from me. She only allows me to see my grand daughters a couple of times a month for 1 hour between 5:30-6:30 (I only get to see the 3 year old for 30 min. and the 6 year old for 60 minutes) and this happenes about every 2-3 weeks. She gives me a 5 minute warning before she takes them. She has banned coloring, tracing, writing numbers, letters and certain songs that I teach them like BINGO. We are confined to one room and she listens to our conversations.
I always say hello to her and she never speaks to me with the exception of telling me what I cannot do. Sometimes, she makes immature faces at me (one time my son saw her do this and his jaw fell open).
She goes to her mother for several weeks, several times a year. Now, I just want to make it clear, I do not hold this against her or her mother. I like her mother and actually her entire family who are all very nice to me. I know the mother-daughter relationship is a diff bond but she is SO MEAN TO ME. And I love my grandchildren. I also am their grandmother and this wound has been hurting me for a long time.
I know, just hang in there. This is what I am doing. I do think my grandchildren love me but not sure?? They run to me when I visit and love to hear me read stories to them. The situation is toxic because I will keep going to see my grandchildren. I will not give them up and I know that is what she wants me to do.
My son does not know what to do. I don't know what to do. My son does allot to make it happen. He is home when I visit.
Everyone, please know that she WILL NOT TALK TO ME. Have not done so for 6 years. So, talking to her is not something that will occur. I have asked her, pleaded with her but she will not. She totally disrespects me.
My son said she is intimidated by me. Has low self esteem. Fears the children will want to be with me (but I do have my own life)>When I hear other grand parents talking about their grandchilren, I feel like I'm from another planet. I think to myself, why.
A few years ago her mother was joking around and told me that I was lucky. She told me that her daughter was a VERY, VERY MEAN person, joking around, but <she said> SHE HAS TO BE NICE TO YOU!!
At this point in my life, I have come to terms with taking whatever crumbs I get, but I still am pretty sad about this whole ordeal. It has changed the happy family I used to have.
SadMIL