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gurly84
Nov 12, 2009, 11:20 AM
I have a boyfriend before and we broke up 7 months from now, we end our relationship before I move to another country for another job, then we started to become friends while I'm still in his country until I move here to my new job. Its been hard for me when we had our break up because I really love him that is why I accept his decission that as "friends". He decided that we will be friends and were still communicating each other like sending emails and chat,that we can be able to talk to each other, but for me it was hard because of course I want my love fade for him and forget him,and I cannot do that if I still talking to him, but I'm scared if I will regret my decission to stop talking to him.
The cares for each other is still there. I'm not dating right now and also him we are honest to each other righ now to let know each other if were dating someone. From the 7 months we broke up I told him again that nothing is change my feelings for him but he still in his decission that just friends. It was really hard for me but that's where I am happy to talk to him... help me I need your advice... what would be the best thing to do? Help me...

amicon
Nov 12, 2009, 11:41 AM
Staying friends should be a mutual decision not something he decides for the two of you.
You need to get over him and that will only work if you have no contact with him. That s a decision you make for yourself so that you can start to heal from the breakup.

AtLarge
Nov 12, 2009, 12:14 PM
I have to agree with amicon. You can only control your own actions. If you want more than friendship and you stay in touch hoping he will change his mind and want more, you could keep yourself in turmoil for a long time.

You might try asking him directly once more if he wants anything more than just friendship. If he says no, you may need to let it all go, stop communicating and move on.

Love is a two-way street and sometimes it just does not happen. It hurts to move on. But in the end, it can hurt less than not moving on.

Hope this makes some sense...

2ndTime
Nov 12, 2009, 12:49 PM
It looks like he made up his mind and there's no going back. Accept the reality and you should move onto someone new.