heavensdoor
Nov 10, 2009, 08:09 PM
I was with my child's father for 4 years. During this time he drank and took drugs. I began to do the same so I decided to end it. We broke up and he moved out. He was sharing responsibility for our 14mth old son but on a few occasions he was neglecting him due to his alcohol and drug abuse. He once took our son to his mothers place, proceeded to get drunk, took our son whilst still drunk on public transport, leaving him in the downstairs of my flat alone. Luckily I came down to see who rang my buzzer and found my baby there alone. When I contacted his mother and sister they knew he had been drinking and allowed him to take the baby anyway.
Stupidly, I continued to let father look after him for a while until my son hurt himself while in his fathers care and found him drunk on returning from work.
I stopped him seeing my son and also stopped his family having the baby on weekends. The grand parents do not agree with my decision and decided to contact my sons social worker without my consent. The social worker was charmed by them and taken in my their educated demeanor and suggested that I let my son continue to visit there even though dad will be there too and grandmother also drinks in the evening.
I want his father and his family to see my son but they have not proved responsible. I have advised them to pursue supervised contact but they haven't and I feel like the bad guy in this situation.
I also recently found out that his father cheated on me during our relationship, so it feels like I'm punishing him for this.
I can't see the situation clearly, am I doing the right thing? Should I let the family look after him unsupervised as they have promised to take better care of him even if his father is there or should I not take the risk and let them pursue supervised contact through a lawyer? Am I just bitter because he cheated on me , so am punishing him and his family? Please help!
Stupidly, I continued to let father look after him for a while until my son hurt himself while in his fathers care and found him drunk on returning from work.
I stopped him seeing my son and also stopped his family having the baby on weekends. The grand parents do not agree with my decision and decided to contact my sons social worker without my consent. The social worker was charmed by them and taken in my their educated demeanor and suggested that I let my son continue to visit there even though dad will be there too and grandmother also drinks in the evening.
I want his father and his family to see my son but they have not proved responsible. I have advised them to pursue supervised contact but they haven't and I feel like the bad guy in this situation.
I also recently found out that his father cheated on me during our relationship, so it feels like I'm punishing him for this.
I can't see the situation clearly, am I doing the right thing? Should I let the family look after him unsupervised as they have promised to take better care of him even if his father is there or should I not take the risk and let them pursue supervised contact through a lawyer? Am I just bitter because he cheated on me , so am punishing him and his family? Please help!