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samanthaswz
Mar 21, 2009, 07:09 AM
Since last yr,I met him and I have felt into him.The matter is that he told me that he is gay.*sobs* And I have been crying lots,he knew about it too because he phoned me every night [never fail] But when I have been telling him my feelings indirectly,he started to be like trying to ignore or care less on me. But still he will fetch me to college and calls me as usual.
December,we ended our pre-u courses and I have went to overseas as well as back to my hometown.[During those periods,he was like did not exist anymore in my world]But unfortunately January he called me and he talked to me like usual.Worst off,he flirted with me I felt so uncomfortable with him because I am trying so hard to love him,stay away from him. Till one day,when he asked me whether I am still in love with him.But made sure the situation won't turn into the awkward ones,I lied and said no [But from that moment,I knew I haven't stop loving him] *His reply was as if not believing my answer. So to convince him,I swore with fear.
*he said that no other like me can love him for 1 year long

Last week,I went out with my girl's friend and I lied to him I went out with a guy.
Then I got a text from him saying that he is so proud of me.. so fast I have new lover and glad that I have been dated.. and it meant that I can really put down the past.

A few day ago,he told me about kissing.He asked me have you ever kissed before[he meant french kiss] I said yes[lies]. He was so damn clever enough to not believing me. Throughout the conversation,he was talking about the process and feeling when the kissing happens.[I am so nervous and wanted to end the call] I asked the reason why he mentioned about kissing.He replied to me that I must find someone who I have and he too in love with hi to try my first.

Why would he text me so and saying about that kissing things? I am really curious to know if he is in love with me without realizing or what? My friends been saying that he is so obsessed with me without realized.
*I am willing to give him the first if he really does love me*

[B]*why would he at times saying that he could be bisexual and ask me to be his gf?*I don;t understand..

jjwoodhull
Mar 21, 2009, 08:02 AM
He loves you as a friend. He does not love you romantically. He is gay. He will never want to date you. You can not change that.

He is talking to you about kissing because he is curious and learning and trusts you AS A FRIEND to discuss these things.

Either feel lucky that you have this good person as a friend and get over your feelings or tell him that you can not be friends because you can not get over your feelings. Do not continue to be friends in the hopes that more will happen. It's never going to.

Think about if you found out that one of your girl friends was in love with you... You could not make yourself want to be with a girl just because she loved you.

talaniman
Mar 21, 2009, 10:49 AM
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This false hope has gone on long enough, don't you think?? Whatever his motives, they are not enough for you, and your only hurting yourself by continuing to let him confuse you.

roxypox
Mar 21, 2009, 01:53 PM
It seems as if its time for you to let go of this love thang for this guy. He has been honest with you and he is gay...

If its too hard for you to be friends with him then you need to let go of the friendship as well. This is not healthy for you. To hold on to false hope like this is not healthy for you and to be frank it is a wast of your time and emotions.

We can\t help who we fall in love with, but we can try to work on moving on.

samanthaswz
Mar 21, 2009, 10:39 PM
Sob* I guess will let go.. Between I have told him that I don't want to meet him or sms him either and I won't hear his call anymore and he was kind of pissed of... I am really trying hard to let go..
*I will try my best to let him go and will give up this freindship*
;(
*why would he at times saying that he could be bisexual and ask me to be his girlfriend?*I don't understand..

roxypox
Mar 22, 2009, 08:25 AM
I think that sounds like a good decision if you're not able to let go of your feelings why your still friends.

I get that he's mad, he is losing a friend, but sometimes we got to take care of ourselves and make ourselves the no.1 priority.

I don't know why he has said that, he might just be playing around with the thought... who knows...

talaniman
Mar 22, 2009, 09:09 AM
sob* I guess will let go..Between I have told him that I don;t want to meet him or sms him either and I won't hear his call anymore and he was kind of pissed of... i am really trying hard to let go..
*I will try my best to let him go and will give up this freindship*
;(
*why would he at times saying that he could be bisexual and ask me to be his gf?*I don;t understand..
Maybe he is bisexual, and wants to prove it to himself with you. Don't even go there with him. Your not a guinea pig. And what id he finds out he isn't, after your emotional investment? Now what. What if he loves you, but cheats with a guy? Are you capable of dealing with all this? Most of us are NOT.

jjwoodhull
Mar 22, 2009, 09:12 AM
If you can not be just friends, then move on. He will probably be very hurt, but it is important that you take care of yourself.

talaniman
Mar 22, 2009, 10:48 AM
I thinks its telling of his intentions, that being gay, he presses you for more than just friendship, but he wants a physical relationship with you too.

Your feelings for him make you very gullible with false hope, simply because he knows you want more from him. Don't fall for that! Back away and protect yourself.

samanthaswz
Nov 5, 2009, 08:32 PM
I am in love with a guy since last year. Our emotional stability are low as in both of us are always in the state of mood swing. We used to quarrel over small matters.He knew that I like him. But he is gay :( still we always hang out and he would call me every night.He went to Australia in July. We still keep in touch. Until one day,we were quarreling in Facebook over a celebrity quiz. He made me so fed up that I don't want to bother about. He called numerous times for 3 days continuously. He even email me to ask about the reason of ignoring him. I didn't reply anything to him. Till the fourth day, he said in his fb status asking people to smack me and even called me a =.=.. and he still called but I refused to listen. Till now he still like always defending on what I did on Facebook. What's on his mind? Why couldn't he let me go :confused: :(

ChihuahuaMomma
Nov 6, 2009, 12:19 PM
Sounds like its time for NO CONTACT. Delete him from Facebook and all other forms of communication. Let yourself heal.

Why form an obsession over someone that you know you can't have?

Gemini54
Nov 6, 2009, 03:02 PM
Why are you in love with someone that's gay?

We can't tell you what's on his mind - we're not mind readers, although we'd like to be sometimes!

Either you stop quarreling with him or you delete him off your Face Book friends.

I'd suggest you concentrate on real life friends that you can have a relationship with.

liz28
Nov 7, 2009, 07:34 AM
His actions should show you what is on his mind. He is being rude and disrespectful and you shouldn't take that. He isn't a friend and I believe you let your feelings get the best of you especially when you knew he was gay. If you couldn't control your feelings towards him then you should've stopped being his friend a long time ago.

Move forward and just block him out of your life and try not to let his childish games get to you.

sully123
Nov 7, 2009, 07:40 AM
I agree with Liz, he isn't any friend at all. He wouldn't be treating you this way. He has a different lifestyle than you, and its not going to get you anywhere. He's not even being your friends, so just move on and meet new people.. good luck.

I wish
Nov 7, 2009, 08:43 AM
Threads merged, please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

You've given him 1 whole year of chances. You've been patient for long enough. If he's still messing with your mind and inconsiderate of your heart, you can be sure that he doesn't feel the same way about you by now.

Find someone else who feels the same way about you.

samanthaswz
Nov 7, 2009, 07:43 PM
Yea.. it;s the same guy... I have a few showing their interest on me.. one of them is a friend who is quite close with him.. But I kind of rejected him... I am a fool when I come to love matter.. I wish I could move on,but eversince I start to move on,he comes in and become the obstacles,making me not daring to move. =.= IDK what to do.

liz28
Nov 8, 2009, 03:52 AM
You be surprise at what you can do when you put your mind to it. The key is to stay strong and you can start that by completely letting go and stop letting him back into your life. He only do what you allow him to do so you need to change that.

samanthaswz
Nov 8, 2009, 12:24 PM
Thanks for all the comments.. appreciate lots..,. I cannot let this man control my life& affect my emotion anymore I have to be strong as there are so many people,friends that support me and love me,not like him treating me like a b*****.. no one will post my no.l in fb ,he is the only one to so. Thanks god I met this kind of man earlier,gaining my life experience to able to handle this kind of situation or men. Thanks again for commenting