Hi... the father of my twins passed away four years ago... y was he stubborn he shouldn't have died and I haste him for it

He deprived me of sex but he died of aids... why did he do that to me?. how do I love him ? For da sake of my twins

Do what to you?

Clarify please.

I'm sorry for your loss. Can I ask why you blame him for his own death? Did he die as a result of him doing things he shouldn't have done?

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Wait, he's the father of your twins but he deprived you of sex? Does that mean he stopped having sex with you after he found out he had aids? I would think he did so to protect you. Possibly out of love.

You don't have to love him still. There's no rule that says you have to love the father of your children forever. It's nice if it works out that way, but the reality is that it doesn't. When you tell your children about them, I would leave out your feelings of hatred though. And tell them about his positive qualities. No sense in hating on the dead. They've already lost their father. At least hopefully they can be left with some positive thoughts of him.