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bluelost09
Nov 2, 2009, 11:42 AM
Ok, so about 2 weeks ago I went to a party mostly all friends of friends things like that. I met someone there who is a friend of a friend she's married and has a family and all.. We were talking all night on and off and I forgot how we got into it but we started talking about me being single long story short. She said she has a few people in work that might be a good match for me so I said that sounds great. So a few days later she wrote me and told me she thinks she found a good match then a day or to after that she told me to friend her on a networking site. So I did and we been talking on the site through email the last 2 or 3 days. My question is I never really did something like that before do I ask for her number?? Give mine? Should we talk for a few days.. I guess I just don't want to force anything and want it to be natural just not sure how to go about this.. Were bothe 28 I think she's really cute from her pics I don't want a pen pal and I don't want to be to pushy.. How to you make it known your interested?? Thanks

jaime90
Nov 2, 2009, 12:00 PM
You met this girl online- you are currently basing things on the way she looks from her pictures, and from what she says online at this dating site (which sometimes, is not the truth, it's just a way to charm people) You do not know how she reacts to other people, how she acts in group situations, or how she acts around other guys. All you know from her is words on a screen- it's not a good time to ask her anything about a relationship right now.
You should start by finding out more about this girl. You should meet and become friends before you start anything serious.

I wish
Nov 2, 2009, 12:18 PM
Recent break up: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/am-right-path-healing-399938.html

Take care your time to get to know each other better. You just broke up recently, so you're on the rebound. There's no reason to rush a new relationship.

Take it slow. Email a few more times to see how comfortable you are with each other and then you can get her number.

Romefalls19
Nov 2, 2009, 01:21 PM
Take your time, what's the rush? I mean, no harm is saying "hey I'm not on here often, but here's my number if you want to give me a call sometime"

talaniman
Nov 2, 2009, 01:37 PM
What's wrong with pen pals, and friends, to start with. Get to know the person, and don't make quick decisions because she has a cute picture. She may be a real witch behind a cute face.

Be aware that since you just broke up, going really slow is better, and finding out who your dealing with, is better than just jumping too fast, into something that you know absolutely nothing about.

Most people make a mistake of skipping the get to know through dating process and think its okay to jump right into a relationship. Thats a disaster that seldom ends well.

That's why you take your time, and go slow, and do this the right way.

Ithappenstoall
Nov 3, 2009, 03:55 AM
I agree with everyone. A picture can be misleading, and even more what she says on her page or to you as well. Therefore my best advice is to take things slow, and see from there. I believe that before anything happens you need to see her in person and go out for diner or a similar activity before even considering a relationship.
Remember that there is nothing wrong with being single...

Good luck to you

amicon
Nov 3, 2009, 04:21 AM
You re only 5-6 weeks away from your recent breakup I think so don't fall into the rebound trap.
Enjoy being single and go on dates to enjoy life-get to know new people, and make new friends.